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tbepp
Dec 17, 2011, 07:27 AM
Well, hi , I'm a junior female, there's this girl who have had a lot of actions with girls. We became good friends recently, she helps me prepare for my exams , and always seem to care. She keeps finding ex uses to do things for my own benefit which is basically about her caring. We talk a lot and she doesn't look into my eyes, she keeps looking at my lips( I swear to god I haven't ever seen her eyes looking into mine). The other day I told her that I like her a lot (I got an A in my math test thanks to her she got a B- btw) she told me in a joking way that all that love is because she helps me with studying. I'm sure tom morrow when ill see her shell pretend that nothing happened but it really hurts me each time I think about it. I don't use people. Sorry... too many words.
But the thing is that I used to HATEEE kisses when I was 13-14 and she kept torturing me by kissing me and stuff . Recently I started to like her in the other way. I just want her to kiss me... But I'm so scared that ill get crazy after all what happened to me in the past.but I just keep fancied her many times kissing me and I think I like it every time I remember it. What should I do? I can't tell her what I want. How can I make her want what I want WITHOUT letting her know? Maybe everything I said is b-**** people but its killing me!
Just please TELL ME WHAT TO DO TO MAKE HER KISS ME... So I may become straight or something. Ps: if you think that it will affect me in a negative way due to my situation towards homosexuals the just tell me. And if I seem crazy to you guys tell me that too!

JudyKayTee
Dec 17, 2011, 01:00 PM
You asked me and so I'll tell you - you don't seem crazy but you do seem confused.

If you want to kiss her, don't wait for her. Make the first move.

What is your "situation toward homosexuals"? I'm not understanding it.

Cat1864
Dec 17, 2011, 04:35 PM
tbepp, how old are you? Are you a junior in High School or college?

I am afraid that your story isn't making much sense to me if you just recently became 'good friends' but she was 'kissing you and stuff' when you were '13-14.'

If you are female, how would kissing her make you 'become straight or something'?

I think you need to talk to your 'friend'. Ask her if she wants to go out if that is what you want. If it isn't, leave her alone and go about your life. Do not play games with kissing her just because you are attracted to her. Kissing should be part of a relationship whether that relationship is serious or casual dating and both parties should be consenting to the act.

I think you need to be honest with yourself and her. If your feelings have changed, then ask her out. It sounds like she may be open to concept. If a date works out, then think about kissing.

Good luck.