Sharp pains as if I'm being stabed an stretched all at the same time.. At one point I was told it was from dryness. . This can't be the only answer.. There was no way I was dry the last two times.. What else could it be?

I had this at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend and it just turned out to be that he was going in too deep, try getting him to go in more gentle and build it up from there making sure you're not sore, its not from dryness but if you think it is try condoms with more lube or add lube, durex play lubes are really good, some of them can be used as a massage oil as well, so if it is dryness that might help to relax and just have lots of foreplay? Hope I help! If you can give me advice for my question id be very grateful!

So recently I've noticed that, when my boyfriend a I are getting ready to make love, if he gets me "wet" it doesn't hurt. But if we just "spit" on it, such as licking and sucking, it doesn't feel the same.. Wit the spit, it hurts, like he is stretch in and cutting my insides. I wonder why this is, or is it just me thinking too much. I don't even know if that is what is making the difference? Anyone know what I'm going through?

It's a completely different lubrication. Saliva is more watery. Vaginal lubricant is a bit thicker.

Don't let him spit on you again. Aside from the degrading and disgusting side, it's just not physically right. Make him give you decent foreplay instead so you're properly ready.

X Dani

How long have you been having sex and have you had this problem with other lovers? Have you discussed this issue with your doctor?

If you are well-lubricated and extremely aroused when it happens, see if a change of angle or position makes it better. You (and your boyfriend) can experiment by using a vibrator to see what causes discomfort and what doesn't. If you are still experiencing discomfort, see your doctor. There could be a medical reason for the problem.

It sounds like you need more in the way of foreplay than oral (spitting, licking, etc.) You probably are not getting as aroused or into wanting intercourse when he isn't getting you 'wet'. Does he use fingers to help stretch you out? Using fingers also better distributes your natural lubrication.

Remember that for females arousal begins long before you ever get close to taking your clothes off. Make sure you are getting the mental stimulation that you need as well as physical. Mental stimulation is what gets your body ready for physical stimulation.