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sdsagidon
Dec 15, 2011, 11:30 PM
My question is that my friend isn't interested to get a boyfriend. But I wish she could be my girlfriend. So what should I do to change her mind?

Actually she always appreciates me by saying that I am handsome, I am cute and so on. She further says I will have good girlfriend who will be more beautiful than her. So she devalues herself too by telling me that she is nothing in front of me. Let me know what I should do to change her mind. So that she can regard me as her boyfriend.

DaniCalifornia
Dec 16, 2011, 04:43 AM
She's desperately and politely trying to tell you she isn't interested. Make the most of what you have with her - An obviously GREAT friendship!

X Dani

talaniman
Dec 16, 2011, 03:02 PM
Sorry my friend, but you cannot change her mind, she must do that herself. But you can change YOUR mind, and stop wanting something she does not want to give you.

Instead of trying to get her to see you as a boyfriend, see her as just a friend and give her the loyalty, and support of a FRIEND.

In this way you can share, and care without selfishly wanting to change her mind. The very notion that you cannot accept her in any way but what YOU want, and she doesn't is very selfish.

That's no good for any relationship, and as long as you give attention to get what you want, is not even honest. That's being a false friend. If you cannot accept her rejection of romance, LEAVE HER ALONE!!

Why should she suffer from your DENIAL. Let a true, honest healthy friendship grow, and you BOTH benefit.

So can you control yourself, or NOT?