My daughter who has been through 2 rehabs and extended stays at half-way houses and sober-living places was sober for a couple of years. She recently married a non-drinking guy with 2 children who have lots of troubles on their own. My daughter recently started drinking again; couldn't stop on her own; so went to her dad's for a week and stopped. A month later she is drinking again. She would like me to visit over the holidays - and I wanted to until I realized she's drinking. I want to love and support her and her family -but not her drinking. I don't know how to do this. If she's still drinking, she'll be drinking everyday. Any suggested articles to read?

There is a book I often recommend for relatives and friends of treatment resistant problem drinkers:

Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening by Robert J. Meyers and Brenda L. Wolfe. The book is based on a process called CRAFT (an intervention method) (http://www.apa.org/pi/about/publications/caregivers/practice-settings/intervention/community-reinforcement.aspx).

I believe you should be able to find this at any public library. It is also available through SMART Recovery® for Family and Friends. Website here (http://www.smartrecovery.org/resources/family.htm).

Very frustrating to deal with but relapse is to be expected. It's the rule and not the exception. I wish you luck and hope this helps.

Thank you. I'll check it out.

Has she gone to AA meetings as well as rehab? With the AA meetings, she would be a LIFETIME member. She would continue going to meetings even AFTER clean. And it would help her STAY that way.