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mommy_14
Dec 7, 2011, 01:52 PM
Was in a relationship for 3 months, accidentally got pregnant. I stayed with the guy for the babies sake. Eventually he started to show his true colors. He wasn't there for me emotionally or physically throughout the pregnancy. He would get very angry at me if I did something he didn't like and would start throwing things and punch things. He also threatened to kill himself if I left him. He told me through text that he could be a parent, because he couldn't give my daughter the live he wanted her to have. I ended it with him and I didn't put his name on the birth certificate. He is now threatening to take me to court if I don't allow him to see her, he also doesn't pay child support and doesn't have a job. Do I have a good chance of getting sole custody of my daughter if I'm the one raising her, breastfeeding her, buying everything she needs even though I am on welfare?

JudyKayTee
Dec 7, 2011, 02:00 PM
Sole custody? I doubt it. Would you be the custodial parent - the parent the child lives with the other parent getting visitation? Yes, probably.

Of course, he can't see the baby now unless you allow it. He would have to take you to Court for visitation.

Have you gone to Court and asked for child support?

That's what single mothers do - they raise, breastfeed (also married women breastfeed) and buy everything their children do. That doesn't mean they become the custodial parent.

Sorry to be harsh - but many taxpayers are getting frustrated by having to pay for other people's children. You aren't buying her everything she needs.

The taxpayers are. Give those of us who work a break and file for child support. Or has Welfare filed against him?

If he's dangerous go to Court, PROVE it, and he won't get visitation and/or custody.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 7, 2011, 07:29 PM
Depends on what you mean by sole custody. Yes if you mean you have legal and physcial custody. But he will get visits, that is his rights, so you can not stop him from visiting.

All he has to do is get a court order to force you to allow him to visit. If he lives close, he could even try to get joint custody if he want to court.

You can and should go to court and get court ordered child support.