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beautyspot2b
Dec 2, 2011, 06:52 AM
Hi, I have been talking to this guy online then proceeded to phone calls and bbm's. It has been 5 weeks now and all of a sudden he tells me that he feels smothered, overwhelmed. He gives me such mixed signals, he tells me he loves me and cares for me so much and wants to meet me one day, but he doesn't want a girlfriend or a wife, ever.

We have a good age difference of 10 years. Is this type of long distance relationship worth investing time into? He doesn't want to remove me from his contact list because he says it would crush him, am I just convenient to have around when he is bored and has nothing to do?

He has several important hobbies and made it clear he will not give them up for anyone. Some advice would be great, but deep down in my heart I guess I know the answer, sometimes its just good to hear it from others though.

talaniman
Dec 2, 2011, 02:54 PM
There are no mixed signals. He was clear that all he wants is a part time online buddy. Once a week/month, when he has the time because he is busy with his life.

Not wise to expect much on line, or have it replace reality, or real people. Expect nothing more than a very casual acquaintance.