JaneDoughnut
Dec 1, 2011, 06:37 PM
Has this happened to you or anyone you know?
My grown daughter who lives thousands of miles away, has for years not let me know if she received my gift for her birthday and holidays.
I always have to ask her "did you receive my gift?" in order to find out. Same thing with my nearly old enough to vote grandson, her son.
She also does not call or send me a gift or card on my birthday.
I have tried withdrawing gift giving, just sending a card in hopes she would get the idea of how it feels to be "forgotten". Occasionally I will get a card from her but it is always a random event. Recently, I sent her a handmade tree ornament which I described to her as involving many steps and hours to make. And added that it was a gift from my heart. I still don't know if she even received it.
I am not the doormat type and so, after all these many decades of being ignored - my heart is no longer into sending her anything. My grandson is the same way. It is hard for me to give them "unconditional love" after all this time.
This is not a problem for anyone to solve. Just wanted to share this to help get it off my chest so I can get on with other things. My question is simply: does this happen to you or anyone you know?
Thanks for reading.
My grown daughter who lives thousands of miles away, has for years not let me know if she received my gift for her birthday and holidays.
I always have to ask her "did you receive my gift?" in order to find out. Same thing with my nearly old enough to vote grandson, her son.
She also does not call or send me a gift or card on my birthday.
I have tried withdrawing gift giving, just sending a card in hopes she would get the idea of how it feels to be "forgotten". Occasionally I will get a card from her but it is always a random event. Recently, I sent her a handmade tree ornament which I described to her as involving many steps and hours to make. And added that it was a gift from my heart. I still don't know if she even received it.
I am not the doormat type and so, after all these many decades of being ignored - my heart is no longer into sending her anything. My grandson is the same way. It is hard for me to give them "unconditional love" after all this time.
This is not a problem for anyone to solve. Just wanted to share this to help get it off my chest so I can get on with other things. My question is simply: does this happen to you or anyone you know?
Thanks for reading.