I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and he is just not affectionate with me at all, his "spending time with me" is him on one couch when he gets home from work and me on the other. The only time I get real closeness is in bed but even then I try to cuddle him or just touch him and he's too hot or too itchy or too tired. I ask him if he wants to do something with me and he always says what is there to do or he don't feel like it, but if a friend calls he's up and out the door as fast as can be... Am I asking too much for him to try and think of things to do with me or for him to just hold me or say I'm beautiful or buy me some flowers or anything just something, I need affection I need to know I still have it.. It just comes down to me thinking I am not good enough for him or whatever

Sounds to me that he's taking the relationship for granted now.

Furthermore, if you're not getting what you from this relationship, then why are you still hanging on? It sounds to me that he's just being himself and you want him to change. It's not healthy for a relationship when one person wants the other person to change. It's about accepting the other person for who they are. If you can't accept him the way he is, then find someone else who's more compatible with you.

I hear you but he has not always been this way, Its always different in the beginning..

Exactly! That's why I said that he started taking the relationship for granted.