Ok so basically, I was with my boyfriend for a few months, it was going great we get on so well, have loads in common.

And the last few months of our relationship he started ignoring me, hardly text me, he never wants to resolve and issue cause he don't like talking about us, and as he said I was basically just annoying him with the tiny est thing. So eventually after he didn't talk to me for a while he ended it. He didn't want a relationship was his reason even though I knew he just didn't want me.. I did nothing to him!

I was devastated, so I tried my best to move on. 4 months later he gets in contact again and basically all that happen 7 months after that was we'd see each other do everything couples do, but he still didn't want relationship. Which would be fine but he knew how I felt about him. So basically he was just using me for sex, every time I asked him about us he'd get annoyed and dismisses it.

Eventually I told him enoughs enough its not fair on me. I can't keep seeing you like this, and you don't even want to commit to me. He said he needed time, but it had nearly been a year!

So I started to move on, but he said now he wants to give it a go.

The problem we are having now is that he's annoyed that I lied to him about not getting with anyone while we were not together... ITS FRUSTRATING! He dumped me! And was horrible to me. I really wanted us to work that's why I didn't want to tell him I got with anyone. I did eventually, cause I wanted to be honest. But now he's acting the victim!

Is he guilt tripping me so he can have a reason to dump me again when he feels like it?

Dremele,

Welcome to this beautiful site, first!

There is something like 'self-respect' which you are not keeping in mind, here. If he is not interested in you, why only he? The world is big, large, unlimited, and you are whole, perfect and complete. Do not worry. Are you very much possessive about him? Do you find him tempting or for-you only? Is there such type of intimacy or something? If yeah, tell me...

But, in relationships, such things are common. You are not alone or unique. The first moments, days, weeks and even months of break-up, esp. the first one, are very tiring, devastating and painful, but time is a great healer. Tell me, how much intimate you are with him emotionally. If he used you for sex, sure, he is not for you. Use and throw is a policy, adopted by many, and so be cautious, in future. And, believe me, there are many more interested in you. Just get a new haircut, get anew and a whole new world is waiting to welcome you.

Good luck!

Yes he is guilt tripping you so he can get what he wants from you, when he wants it.

The problem is you gave your heart to a guy who doesn't deserve it, or knows what to do with it. He didn't want your heart, just your body, and its best to move on, and don't look back.

When you allow bad behavior, you get more of it.

Dear,
There are miserable people who feel stronger by lowering yourself esteem. When you admit it, there are two ways:

You get rid of them and move on. (Dump him.)

You pity them and use your love to heal them. (Keep seeing him.)

If you choose the second way, I should tell you by my own experiences that it's never going to be easy. Human psychology is something complicated and sometimes we realize that our impressions are totally wrong. That's the main reason I don't like advising people to end their relationships because if there are feelings, it should be your own choice what to do with them.

This guy seems insecure and somehow disturbed so you may try to be (over)understanding. Give yourself some time and try to ignore his attacks. If there's a trauma based trust issue, this will break his prejudice and he'll try to tell himself by time. Just listen to him, never judge and don't do anything that could strengthen his suspicions.

And never forget that the problem is not about you. Always remind yourself that you chose to deal with a hurt, somehow corrupted person and you love him.

But be loyal to your oath, when the time that you give to your relationship ends, and there's no change about his ways. Let him go. You'll feel much more stronger and satisfied because you'll know that you did everything.

There's nothing more important than yourself confidence, peace and happiness.

Hope this helps.

He dumped you.

Stay dumped and don't waste any more time on a waste of space.

Self respect is what you need to work on.

Don't be anyone's booty call,let this go.