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helsing
Nov 28, 2011, 09:09 AM
I was with a girl for last 7 months whom I love a lot. She likes me but still haven't told me those three words. She stays alone and I also stays with her for 3-4 days in a week.

She have a lot of guys as friends, and no girls as friends. She is dominating in nature, and as I love her. I always succumb to her talks. We always have fights and argument which she always wins.

We do cuddle,hug and hold each other and sleep. But she never allowed me to kiss her or anything else. According to her she needs time to think about the relationship.

We always go out on trips, and parties which I as a guy bear the expense, which I don't have any problem. Also as I want this girl to be my life partner.

Last week when I was out of town two of her guy friends came to the city and stayed with her, which she told me earlier itself. That weekend we had a slight tiff over the phone. When I came back from my holiday I went to her place. Accidentally I got a used condom in her kitchen bin. When I confronted her she said that one of her friend, who is a married guy was with his ex girlfriend, and it might be used by them. She swore by her parents and all to make me believe. There was couple of times where I think she lied to me.

I love her a lot and pray that whatever she is saying is true. But I am not able to believe it also.

I want to get out of this painful feeling.

geminichick
Nov 28, 2011, 10:52 AM
Wow! The thing that kind of concerns me is the fact she could be using you. For example you pay when you go on trips and to parties. Also you both fight a lot. That is not a very good sign. Every couple has disagreements and arguments but to argue all the time is not good in a relationship. You have been seeing each other for 7 months and she does not allow you to kiss her? Honestly I think that you should leave her. If your intuition tells you something about a person you should always trust it. If your looking for a relationship with someone I think you should find her somewhere else. Especially when she is uncertain about the relationship. I know this is hard for you to hear but you really need to let her go. I understand you love her but she is draining all of your energy out of you. Don't waste your love on someone that doesn't deserve your love and does not return it. Take care of yourself. I hope this helps!

talaniman
Nov 28, 2011, 10:29 PM
I would go with my gut. Maybe she is not the one to give your heart to. Nor has she proved she knows what to do with it.

7 months is a bit soon to be in love with a stranger, or consider her a potential life partner. WAY TO SOON.

Maybe that's the problem, you have given her too much to fast, and she sure is taking it.

I think you can do better my friend sorry. She sounds like the WRONG girl to me.

Delilahwrites
Nov 29, 2011, 11:12 AM
I do agree with talaniman and these kind people are not only "dominating in nature" types. They are often manipulators who may ruin your life or years if you're lucky. I don't want to prejudice her since all I know is based on your message, however there's a huge lack of sincerity in your situation. Acting like a stranger after 7 months is not normal. This could be explained by moral issues or manners but you told that she lets two of his male friends to stay in her place and finds it normal for them to commit adultry in her privacy. This does not smell good my friend.

Try to call her less, think about yourself, find your strength then face her. During this period you'll probably be surprised when you see her calling you and wanting to meet. No one wants to lose someone who cares and understands like you. But this relationship needs a re-balancing. Do it, and once she's panicked of losing you, play your cards. Ironically, stay calm and ask her sincerely about your concerns. And don't you ever blame her for anything or she'll wear her ego shield again.

mmresd
Nov 29, 2011, 11:32 AM
Whether she is the right her is up for you to decide, no one here will make that decision for you. However, it seems like you two are moving at WAY different speeds. While she is taking her time getting to know you and holding off on the physical part of the relationship, you are thinking about marriage. Have a talk with her, see what her plans are and if they involve you, then match her pace in the relationship because if you go quicker, you also get further apart.

helsing
Dec 7, 2011, 11:18 AM
Thanks everyone for the feed back.. as they say one should trust his/her intution.. I am going with it.. I am still meeting her but evryday we fighting it out on the condom episode.. I was ready to give time and love.. but I am not able to digest that the condom was used by her friend who is married on his ex girl friend


















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