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Craig16100
Nov 24, 2011, 06:17 PM
We were in a good strong relationship for a year and a bit. We only argued once in that year. Everything was good.

But because of work it ended up being long distance relationship which was mega hard after living with each other, then being so far apart. So we got to see each other a few times a month for a couple of months.

Then she phones up, and says thing are not good, she wasn't happy and she didn't want to end it. She just knew she wasn't happy. I was fine. I knew thing would get better it would take time but she didn't accept that as an answer to fix the problem. So we agreed to go on a break just for a week. Not talk to each other or anything and then see how we felt no talking to each other.

A week goes by and she text me to say she was breaking up with me. I was mega upset. I didn't think thing were that bad. There was something not right so a month goes by, and I'm getting back on track with my life we had no contact at all!

Then she phones me to say she want to get back with me and when she broke up, she was just stressed and she regrets it. Which I replied to as OK, but give me time, but I'll be more than happy to start up again. She then explained to me that the day before she broke up with me whilst on our "break" she slept with someone ( pretty sure it was her ex which I don't think matters).

Now I find it really hard to forgive people after my trust is broken. Once I never trust again, I think if I got with her again that would be all I think of.

Any advice on what I should do or consider? Maybe I'm missing her point of view, I don't know. I just know I love her but I've got a bitter taste in my mouth!

talaniman
Nov 24, 2011, 09:30 PM
Ain't that much love in the world for me. No way do you get dumped because she had an itch for someone else and then comes running back when its scratched, or doesn't work out.

Tell her NO! And get back to the life you had built when she first dumped you, BY TEXT!!

Fool me once..

I would say sorry for your loss, but I think you dodged a bullet when she dumped you. At least give this a lot of thought before you jump back into this.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 24, 2011, 10:02 PM
Yes, she had that planned, and then changed her mind, I would let her be happy with who ever, good reason he is the ex and reason you should be the next ex

vanheart
Nov 24, 2011, 11:22 PM
You're dumped. Join the crew.

Forget her.

DaniCalifornia
Nov 25, 2011, 04:35 AM
I's not usually considered cheating, but they clearly don't care about you if they slept with someone else. Excuse my rudeness, but she's a silly *****. She most likely tried to get back with you as this other person rejected her. Forget and move on Hun.

X Dani

icalltheshot
Nov 25, 2011, 09:02 AM
At least she was honest about it lol but I agree with the other that I don't think she love you that much