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Levitation
Nov 22, 2011, 11:20 AM
This is going to be long, but I would really appreciate your honesty and help!

Okay, I like this one guy a lot. We both are 17 year old. I'm really outgoing, we both have this thing for 60's and stuff. We like same music, I even have same personality as he does. Well we actually get along really well, he sits with me during classes a lot and he sometimes comes up and starts talking to me. And I do everything to show my interest in him. The problem is that he's really outgoing and friendly guy in general, he uses my name a lot, jokes with me, but so he does with every other person in our group (we are having Arts lessons together in small groups of 9 people). So yeah he gets along with all of us there, EXCEPT this one girl...

He's completely different when it comes to her. He avoids looking at her (for example, I noticed that when he passes her in the corridors he doesn't look at her even from the corner of his eye, he always looks straight ahead) or calling her by her name.(There was one situation where he was talking to his friend from the same group and when he had to mention her, he said something like "I don't know when she's going to blablabla". And whenever he needs her to pass something to him he whispers to his other friend something like "Tell her to pass me this and that", so he never talks to her directly or actually almost never talks to her at all.

He also is rather quiet around her. Especially when he's standing right next to her. I mean, not that he's being silent when she's in the same room, but if she's somewhere near, like really near, he would get quite silent.

So that would kind of show that he actually hates her or doesn't care about her at all. But things that got me confused are the following ones. If he absolutely ignored her, and wouldn't be interested in her even as in a friend or classmate, would he put some kind of random phrases when she talks? They are really awkward, but that showed that even though he looks like he doesn't pay attention to what she's talking about with her friends, he actually is, right? Or there was one day, that he started calling her funny nickname, just to annoy her. That happened only two times that day, he stopped because her close friend told him to (that friend thought he was being rude while he was just joking around).
Also, during our Drama class, (we are going there all together - me, her and him) he always stands right in front of her. Like if you drew a line from his standing point to hers, it would be completely straight. I also thought that I caught him looking at her from the corner of his eye once, but I might have only imagined it.

As silly as all this sounds, but I'm asking you to help me. I mean, he's really outgoing but he acts rather weird with her. Is that the way he shows how much he dislikes her, or is it actually the opposite? Like I mentioned before, he is really friendly with everybody else.But that randomness towards her really confuses me.

PLUS: She is my best friend, that's why I'm not confronting him nor her about their feelings.
She's kind of reserved, especially around him, will not talk much to him, avoid him a bit. Her other friend says that she likes him a little, but she does everything not to show it. Is he interested in her, even a little? Or am I over thinking it because I like him too? And if you think he actually likes her, what makes you think so? Thanks!

talaniman
Nov 22, 2011, 12:47 PM
You and HER need to have an honest talk, because between you TWO, you have to know how she feels, and clear up some confusion, because as of now he seems to be between you both and one of you, maybe both has to step aside and then find out how he feels. That's what best friends do for each other, instead of assume or wonder what their friend is feeling, or wants.

I know this is about how some guy may feel, whether he wants your friend or not, so you can maybe go for it, without hurting your friend. So talk to her about it, HONESTLY, and clear that up first. How come you don't know what your best friend wants, and others do? That's very strange.

There is no way to tell how he feels, without asking him.

SweetChick10101
Dec 14, 2011, 08:58 PM
It sounds more to me like they have some sort of a past together than him liking her, do you know if they do? I mean it could be anything, maybe they know each other through something random and feel awkward because of something you may not know about? But is she's your best friend, you would probably know. On the other hand, I know that when you're shy (which I am unfortunately -.-), it can be super intimidating to talk to someone you think is cute or have a crush on, so maybe that's why they keep avoiding each other. I think the best thing to do is at least ask your best friend, then you won't have to deal with the uncertainty! You'll never know unless you ask because they are giving no good hints!


P.S. The 60's rock. :D

Homegirl 50
Dec 14, 2011, 09:39 PM
If she is your best friend, ask her if she likes him, that is what best friends do, they communicate with and are honest with each other. Or ask him, that is your best bet.

Goldenbrown
Jun 29, 2012, 10:51 AM
There is something connecting both of them, its your duty to find out