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Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 04:48 PM
I'm in a situation where I have been asked to leave a home I was invited into to LIVE... After losing my job and ending up homeless . I've not done anything to anyone in the home.. I've provided groceries (150.00) in 3 days upon arrival and every time I have had an opportunity to get any money I always put it towards things in the home. I do not have a steady job (small town) jobs are scarce and guarded like Ft.Knox. The home owner has gone off on me numerous times over real insignificant things like her daughter losing mommas debit card and benefits card as well. I am the one that all the Mess rolls down to. I cook, clean, and pretty much stay to myself to avoid the thunderstorm that's always Overhead. I have been told I have to get out numerous times even though they know I have no means to do so, no family, and very few friends. I am in a small town and the only people I know are the people I live with. I am in Coshocton Ohio and I have contacted the Local sheriff to warn them of an impending Explosion from the homeowner when she finds out that I was told by a Lt. at the dept that she would have to file an eviction to get me out. My question is Can this person do anything to me while I am in this home to force me to leave. For instance.. I have been forbidden use of the telephone they guard it like it's a treasure chest. I also know when she receives the news I was told by the LT. she's going to start restricting my Internet access.. further inhibiting my access and ability to get help for myself... My laptop, her Internet, and she's going to tell me I am not to eat any food in the house that she buys even though had it not been for me no one would have been eating for the last 2.5 weeks... Can she take away the quality of life such as it is in order to force me out prior to getting any legal action against me. Things such as telling me I have to sleep on the floor etc... and She will be as nasty as she can to me to get me out of here, and all I have done is help, and try and do as much for myself as I possibly can.

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 04:50 PM
Please provide some backstory. How did you end up living there, i.e. how did you find them or they you?

ScottGem
Nov 21, 2011, 04:52 PM
You are a resident and to get you out she has to follow the formal eviction process.

However, unless there is an agreement to provide room AND board, she does not have to provide food or Internet access.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 21, 2011, 04:54 PM
They may of course file for eviction to have you removed.

They may since you are sharing the home, restrict you from using the phone or internet they pay for.
They may restrict you from eating their food and using your own food.

Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 06:01 PM
Wondergirl... as embarrassing as it is now... It was a relationship thing from online as well as me being Semi homeless at the time... She offered me a place to stay as long as I could get to the bus station where she picked me up... after I got here I found out that she had just kicked a guy out the day before I got here who she also met from the same place, that apparently had been here for 2 months. From what I have since learned is this persons husband of 10 years had recently left her because the internet is more important than her family.. its true she comes out of her room for maybe a total of 25 minutes a day the rest of the time is spent in front of the Pc I guess preparing herself for more encounters such as the ones she's involved herself in. Her very own kids informed me of the ONE that left right before I arrived which turned my stomach and I declined and physical advances or touching of any sort from her.. 3 days after I was here I was actually put out she packd my things and had such a conniption, (even grabbed my laptop and almost threw it out into the street), I actually went out the door after informing her if she tossed it out id end up in jail because I would march my *** right upstairs and do the same to hers.. Her son later told her as long as I was outside he was going to be out there too, we bonded pretty good in those 3 days, so she recanted and has since, on several more occasions Blown her stack... She's Bipolar in a bad way.. WHY DO I STAY? I have no family.. I grew up in foster care.. I have no money.. I used it all upon arrival to help and contribute to the betterment of the family... and every crumb I've gotten in to me through small retail merchandising assignments I put back into the home because I once got myself a candy bar that was later STOLEN... and I was berated for not GETTING EVERYONE ONE.. kind of Stuck and there's not much help around her for someone in my position under these circumstances. Since you Asked Wondergirl.. But I still maintain my sense of humor, and a positive attitude... and my MANNERS

ScottGem
Nov 21, 2011, 06:04 PM
I think you need to talk to a local social services agency. You need to get help getting out of this situation.

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 06:05 PM
So why not leave? Are there any resources around there, in the county maybe, a human services office? Which state are you in?

***ADDED*** Scott, great minds think alike!

Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 06:11 PM
Wondergirl No for the past 2 weeks I have tried to find suitable assitance for myself. I have a longtime friend in Texas (MALE 7 years known and not from the internet) that I've reconnected with who has a standing offer to assist me with anything I need upon Arrival... I have no way of getting there, and hitchhiking isn't an option for me... I lost a dear friend like that about 3 yrs ago. I believe in self preservation.. but to see what I deal with on a daily here you wouldn't believe that.. lol

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 06:14 PM
How far away is the friend? Bus?

cdad
Nov 21, 2011, 06:20 PM
How far away is the friend? Bus?

The OP is in Ohio and his friend is in Texas.

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 06:23 PM
Thanks, dad. I had forgotten the Ohio thing, had read that right after it was posted. I should have reviewed.

Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 06:23 PM
Outside the houston tx area... I'm in Ohio... it's a 55.00 cab ride to the bus station from here and I think a ticket I looked up was about 180.00 and almost a 2 day bus ride... its just not possible for me to come up with that kind of money plus money to keep myself fed... I have another friend checkn into some other options for me but I can't just leave.. seems all the items I had my things in (backpack, and a large strapped duffle bag have also disappeared, and no one knows what happened to it. And Locally there are no services that can help me since I am not a resident of the state of Ohio or really even the county.. weird! I'm a resident of the home but not the county I guess because I haven't lived here for an extended period. Hmm?

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 06:25 PM
Have you checked with area churches?

Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 06:28 PM
Yes.. WOWWWW only about 30 churches I've actually spoken to someone at in the last few weeks even in surrounding areas... it's a very small, no resource having area here... very tiny.. I've exhausted everything I know to do and 211 wasn't much help

cdad
Nov 21, 2011, 06:29 PM
Outside the houston tx area.... im in Ohio... its a 55.00 cab ride to the bus station from here and i think a ticket i looked up was about 180.00 and almost a 2 day bus ride... its just not possible for me to come up wiht that kinda money plus money to keep myself fed ...I have another friend checkn into some other options for me but I can't just leave.. seems all the items i had my things in (backpack, and a large strapped duffle bag have also disappeared, and no one knows what happened to it. and Locally there are no services that can help me since I am not a resident of the state of Ohio or really even the county.. weird !! im a resident of the home but not the county i guess because i havent lived here for an extended period of time. hmm?

Is there a college near you? Lots of times students going home for the holidays have an open car policy whereby so long as you pay your way and maybe help with the driving you can get to different areas of the country. You can get there pretty fast too. You would have to check the bilboards at the college. Right now your cutting it close but then again christmas is coming and there is a large break there too.

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 06:31 PM
Would someone lend you money to get to Houston?

cdad
Nov 21, 2011, 06:37 PM
Have you looked here yet ?

Coshocton County Job and Family Services (http://www.coshoctonjfs.org/)

Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 06:40 PM
No I have no one to lend me any money to get where I need to go as I said I grew up in he foster care system so I have no family, and no there are no colleges anywhere near me for me to catch a ride to the houston tx area

Tonyk823
Nov 21, 2011, 06:55 PM
YES dad CALIFDAD I did try them I've tried everything there's just no funding in such a small place for much of anything

Wondergirl
Nov 21, 2011, 07:11 PM
Is there a Missouri-Synod Lutheran church in town?

J_9
Nov 21, 2011, 07:14 PM
You could even try here if you haven't already.

Society of St. Vincent de Paul | Seeking Charity and Justice (http://www.svdpusa.org/)

206 Cherry Road Northeast
Massillon
(330) 837-0084