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chocodrip
Nov 14, 2011, 04:17 AM
I'm not proud of admitting that I'm a porn addict, have been since I was 15 years old, now ten years later I'm still not over it. I've been married for the past 5 years and even though we have an amazing sex life I still watch porn almost every day.
I'm tired of leading a double life and I seriously want to quit. Please help me since I'm feeling very guilty whenever I go to church. And I feel that my prayers are in vain. Please help.

tickle
Nov 14, 2011, 04:29 AM
Porn is more accessible then ever before, in so many different ways. It actually is a mental disorder although not formally recognized as one, that is why help for this addiction is so hard to find; you may want to look into internet filtering equipment which will remove the porn you want to see on your computer.

www.internetsafety.com/BlockPorn click on 'safe eyes' to the left of the website

Tick

mathewcostin
Nov 22, 2011, 07:06 AM
Hi, you first need to give up on punishing yourself for it. God loves you and knows the emotional reasons you are doing it. And he still loves you beyond measure. But, it is unloving and by projecting sexually at other women or men, you are not being truly faithful.
Next, get real by opening up to your wife about the addiction. I recommend even leaving the house for a time to give her space to feel about it.
Then see a psych about it. There are emotional causes from your parents projections involcved in this. You need to discover them.
From a recovering porn addict.

Dee_Kowalsky
Jan 6, 2012, 02:38 PM
My ex-husband was (is) a porn addict and here are some practical tips you can use to help fight your addiction. I hope it helps you;

1. Be sure you are actually a porn addict (personally, I prefer the term "pornaholic"). There's an excellent test that will help you reflect on how much of a problem your porn viewing has become which you can find at http://www.optenetpc.com/blog/porn-addiction/porn-addiction-test/
2. Don't listen to others who might tell you that nothing is wrong with your porn viewing habits; if you want to stop looking at porn, then do what you think is right regardless of what others think. After all, it's your life.
3. Start keeping notes about your addiction, paying special attention to what you are thinking and/or feeling before, during and after looking at porn.
4. Take practical steps to break the habit. If you look at porn on the computer, move it or use your laptop in a public area in the home.
5. Look back over the past few times you've spent hours looking at porn online, or viewed material you're ashamed of and think about what the trigger was.
6. If you view porn when you've been especially low and lonely, work out a plan of action in advance for the next time you feel that way.
7. You are more liable to become addicted to internet pornography if you had a childhood which makes genuine intimacy hard for you now. If this is the case, strongly consider seeing a therapist or a counselor as they are in excellent position to either help you were to refer you to someone who can help.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 6, 2012, 04:16 PM
Is porn effecting your marriage,

Is your wife aware of your watching porn, if no, why not?

smoothy
Jan 6, 2012, 07:55 PM
How much porn do you watch every day? 1 hour, 2 hours? You AREN'T addicted. Now if its 8 or 10 hours , then yes you are.

I like women, I like seeing a beautiful woman, I did when I was 13... I did when I was thirty, I still do at 50. I'm not addicted

I wasn't castrated the day I got married 2 decades ago...

Looking at some porn every day isn't a sickness...

A fixation to complain about people seeing ANY porn... IS a sickness. And there are people posting in this thread that have it.

If most of your waking hours are consumed by porn... you might have an issue... the key here being how much, something the OP never stated.