Ok well my ex girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me a month ago out of nowhere it seemed. My birthday was on the Tuesday. She came to me showered me with gifts and booked a trip for us for to weeks later. Then Friday we had a fight about something small and the next day she broke up with me. We didn't talk for a week I figured I'd give her time.

Then I sent an email explaining how much I loved her, and things I knew we could fix. She text me all throughout that day then the next day asked if we could meet up. We did and she spent 3 hours in my truck kissing me telling me how much she loved me playing sad songs and just cuddling with me, but that she just can't do this anymore. She left crying. The next morning she's texting me talking about all are memories etc. saying she hates her life and doesn't know how she's going to go on. I call her and tell her we can make it work. We love each other.

She said she can't turn her back on friends and family and since she has been crying on their shoulder for a week they will be upset if she goes back. She ends the call telling me if I need her I know her number and we never know what the future brings, that she loves me but we can't talk anymore. Says goodbye and that's it.

Then 4 hours later without me trying to contact her I get a text from her dad, telling me that I am not to contact her again, its over, move on be a man, and the biggest thing that haunts me is he said if I go try and see her SHE will call the police and she's scared of me.

This is the girl that was crying on my in my arms less then 12 hours before this and had just cried to me 4 hours before this text. For the record I have never done ANYTHING to make her scared of me. So anyway I am shocked. I don't contact her for 3 weeks and then I send her a short email basically acknowledging things I did wrong, and thanking her for opening my eyes to some issues, and how I don't understand why she's scared of me.

I also made a nice slideshow video with pictures of us and a nice song. Then guess what. I get a call from her dad. Telling me he said to leave her alone, and she wants to call the police on me. Call the police for what? Sending one email and video in 3 weeks time. We spent 4 years together, did everything together I don't know what is going on in her head. I am so confused this is not the girl I know.

I am 27 she's 22 she does not live her her parents. Can anyone please make sense of this behavior. I mean the email did not talk about us getting back she could have either just deleted it, read it and ignored it or read it and contact me back. But to run to your dad and have him call me after receiving a small email and video and say she's going to call the police? Very confused.

Obviously she has told her dad a different story, but it still comes down to the same thing guy, and that's LEAVE HER ALONE, because she ain't worth all that trouble, nor does she want any more contact from you at all. The reasons don't matter at all at this point do they? There is probably a lot more to this than she wants you to know. And it seems you never will,

Yes its confusing but she must have wanted out real bad to go through those changes. So let her go. Time will heal the confusion, HOPEFULLY.

For all you know, her dad has been overbearing and dominant in responding to what his daughter has told him. She must be pretty convincing if he has to jump in her life and feel the need to protect her from you.

I don't personally think that you have heard the last of her. She sounds quite immature to have to have her father so involved in her love life. IF you hear from her again, if she initiates contact, particularly by text, send that to her father. Ask HIM to have his daughter stop contacting YOU- her initiation of contact several times is unwelcome.

That's all you have to say. And, directly to him is where it belongs because he is the one making these accusations against you, and threats against you. At least if she texts again, you will have a copy with the date and time, so that in the event she keeps complaining to her father and the police ARE called, you will have something to protect yourself against some stalking charge or application for a restraining order.

It is imperative that you do not contact her, even to return a text, phone call, etc. Keep track in a diary or notebook when she calls, also with date/time. Get hard copies of same if you can.

She sounds like trouble to me.

What's done is done. This is what happens whenever people don't accept a break up right away. Go no contact, forget about this psycho girl, and move on. Don't send her anything, if you receive something just delete it without reading it and make your life somewhere else. Or what is it going to take for you to understand that the relationship is over?

Trust me I will not be contacting her as I only did once in a month through email to kind of put things at rest. Nothing mean in the email or nothing about getting back together. I never expected the response I got however. The same thing kind of happen to us 2 years ago. She left cold turkey changed her number and disapperead then 5 weeks later after no contact she called me crying saying she hatted her life wanted to die etc. and I took her back. There are clearly issues in her head, I will always care and worry about her but I won't be contacting her again

I understand its over and I will not contact her. Its just hard when the last time I saw her she's kissing me telling me she loves me, doesn't know how she will go on, sits with me for over 3 hours upset then the next day her father tells me to stay away or she's calling the cops when nothing happen between that time. 4 years man. Did everything together and overnight turns. Even sounds abit bipolar

Don't be confused when words and actions don't match. Its always a RED FLAG to pay attention too. It's a huge RED FLAG in your case.

What's A RED FLAG?

What do you mean A RED FLAG, What was the red flag

A red flag is a behavior, or action that makes you pay attention closer, and think twice before you act.

Like being dumped after a small argument.

Like saying one thing and doing another. its a WARNING, to be very cautious and get facts, and don't figure, or assume.