Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend after 4 years 3 months ago. The way we broke up is that I found on her Facebook messages her telling another guy that she doesn't love me anymore and that she has changed.

We were 14 when we started going out and I'm 18 now. It hurts like hell. We were together all the time, she was my best friend and around school we had even picked up nickname.

Now, over the past 3 months I have done everything everyone suggests to move on apart from one thing contacting her. The longest I've lasted is 2 weeks before texting her to ask if she was okay or the occasional ring to see if she answers, guess what? She doesn't. I've moved away from where we use to hang out, met new people, gone to music festivals, kissed new girls and dated others.

I always find myself crawling back to wanting her back? I've just started my first year at university and I can't seem to take her off my mind even though the last time I saw her was 3 months ago.

HELP? She was my first love, my only love. It feels like she has died.

Sucks.
The first one is the worst. Im not just saying that. The last one sucks harder.

"It feels like she has died"

Yeah, its just like that. At every age.

Its going to take some time, and learning how to live without her.
Actually, that's a given & better for you.

"I always find myself crawling back"
Stop that. That's your prob.

Who wants anyone that doesn't want us?
Really?

The world is filled with lots of opportunities, cool people, girls, friends, enemies, etc...

Go out & find them.

Yup.

Bummer for sure, but I think it will take a lot longer than 3 months, a year maybe, if you can stop trying to contact her.

Hard to break a 4 year habit, especially when that all you ever had. Be patient, and stay busy.

Hey,
You have to stop thinking that she is "the one"(This is what that gets all of us). Honestly many girls have the potential of being your "one" you'll see one day. So there are really no "ones" haha. Also the visualizing and fantasizing has to stop, force yourself to stop thinking about anything to do with her; just use an image of a stop sign haha. Soon you'll be thinking about her 15% of the time then 5% then 0. Also about contacting her, think it through, will it get you any where with her by talking to her?. It won't so KILL the hope completely. Accept that the relationship will never work and you'll be back to being yourself and enjoying college! College man, I guarantee you'll me lots of "ones" there lol!

From,
Another hurting guy

I like the stop sign idea.
Once you master that one, your golden.
Whatever works.

You'll be able to use that later. A bunch of times.

Forever. Like radar. Gut feelings, and using your head.

I haven't mastered that yet, but pretty good at it.