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ineedsomeadvice
Nov 7, 2011, 09:27 PM
I want to know what I should do about the following situation: My husband and I are divorced... the divorce was not amicable and that's all I have to say about that really, but the problem I am having is with his family and my family.

I do not have any contact with his family and he has no contact with mine, we have no mutual friends and have no need to be in each other's lives, but some members of my family are still very friendly with his family... mainly on Facebook.

I will not admit this openly to anyone, but it absolutely drives me insane that they are so friendly with each other, especially after my family knows what hell has put me through and also the very people they are friendly with. My ex sister-in-law was so nasty and vindictive to me and she was emotionally abusive.

I guess what I am saying is that it hurts me so much that my own family knows what they put me through and still choose to be friendly with them. I cannot tell people who to be friends with, so how do I deal with this? They only met each other due to my marriage and they were not friends before then and its not like they hang out or anything... they live on two different continents.

I feel like I am losing my mind and I wish that my ex's family will just go away!!

Steph_Love
Nov 7, 2011, 10:03 PM
It's fairly easy to be really nice and friendly to people you only talk through Facebook. It could be that if your relatives got to know them for themselves, they would think differently. I would be feeling hurt and upset as well if I were in your shoes. But I would also 'Unfriend' your relatives and his relatives off Facebook and don't waste anymore time being angry. Go out and live a happy life! :)

talaniman
Nov 8, 2011, 01:50 PM
I have to agree with Steph, you should get off their Facebook and stop letting what others do upset you.

But you have so many fresh open wounds, and resentments, I can see why you would be upset. I think it will take some time until you have built a life without them, and are happy again, so what they do doesn't bother you as much.

Until then, you have to leave them all alone.

vanheart
Nov 9, 2011, 02:12 AM
Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.

Just you.

Take the high road always.

Like you said:
"I do not have any contact with his family and he has no contact with mine, we have no mutual friends and have no need to be in each other's lives"

There you go...

JudyKayTee
Nov 9, 2011, 08:10 AM
I'd stay away from Facebook. This might be one of those situations where the less you know the happier you are.

When I divorced some of my relatives remained very friendly with my ex, despite the problems we had. As time went on those relationships resolved because they had less and less in common - in the beginning I was the only common link and, of course, once he and I moved on my relatives had little to discuss with him.

Why did he stay in touch with them? To annoy me, basically.

I guess families develop a bond and when the person becomes an "ex" they don't know what to do - or at least that's what I would hope.