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bmariem
Nov 7, 2011, 10:28 AM
What do I do? I lovee my ex(3years) I broke up with her thinking she would come running after me. She said the night before she would fight for me. We had plans to get married and live happily togather. We were suppose to stick togather through thick and thin. Maybe it was my fault. I honestly ealked out because she would not stop bringing up my ex. And honestly it was annoying. I left thinking we would be OK within a couple days. We never really said "its over".. Well anyway.. We ended up not talking for a while id say two weeks. And because I was confused and sad I rebounded. Got with someone I did not love or care for just to take my mind off her. Well we never talked she went around sayung I cheated in her which I did not. Everyone, her and god knows I only love and care for her.. well we haven't been togather for. Almost 3 months now.. Within that time we seen each other just to exchange what stuff we had left from each other.and I ended up breaking up with the rebound. Only lasted maybe 3weeks. Well she says she's doing good loving college and playing basketball. I recently found out she us now with another team mate of hers. I know she loves me as I love her.. How am I suppise to feel? She said she don't hate me but she wants me to stay in the past.. How do you stop loving someone of 3 years.. We had our whole life planned out.. I was sure no matter what we stat togatger.. did I mention earlier this year she left me for someone for a month then realized she could not be without me.. Anyway I guess I did the demage this time. Im taking advice and trying to move on and be the best I can be.I don't want any relationship.. But its hard now cause I love her. Im willing to wait how ever long it takes.. See another thing is I still keep in contact with her fam. They are more of a family to me then my own. They took me in so its hard to just loose contact. Her dad tells me give it time he knws how much we love each other but she needs to live. She never got to get out and live before she graduated high school. So he believes this is suppose to happen and I know its not good for anyone to give you hope. But I can't help it.. Everything reminds me of her and I feel lost.

0rphan
Nov 26, 2011, 01:58 PM
Sadley, there is no quick fix.I think you both have to go your own ways for now,spread your wings, see a bit of life,experience different things and so on - to mature.

If after a period of growing, you find each other again and your feelings haven't changed,then you obviously, have real love for each other,now is the time - to plan your future life together.

For now you just have to move on,do your own thing and let her do the same.