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Hellogoodbye114
Nov 3, 2011, 07:17 PM
On Monday, I discovered my musical instrument was broken. On Tuesday, my music teacher told me the next day she could give it to a company that comes in and they would be able to quickly fix it, probably without charge.

I informed my father, (my mother is deceased), and he agreed that it would be a good idea. Wednesday, my music teacher gave me a note saying my flute would be back on Wednesday. I informed my father.

He was a little angry because he wanted it back right away. Thursday, I got a voicemail on my cellphone, (I guess, the company read my "if found" sticker), saying my instrument needed this and that and for a price of $50 they could fix it.

I informed my father, very fearfully as $50 was a bit much. I assumed he would call them back and decline politely. He completely freaked out. Then wrote an email to my principal saying how angry he was at my music teacher for not giving me a permission slip and for her going through me instead of contacting him.

Then he swore at me and said he was not angry at first only because he thought it was a done deal, though I tried to point out that I had told him beforehand, he had a choice, and he said "yes".

I'm so terrified now of going to school tomorrow. My music teacher will be so angry at me and accuse me of not informing my father, when I did, with the limited information she gave me. I'm also terrified that I may have to talk to the principal. I am a straight-A, award-winning person and have never had to deal with such a situation before. I am so confused.

How can I fix this situation and make peace with everyone involved?

Thank you so, so, much!

CliffARobinson
Nov 3, 2011, 07:27 PM
Do you have a guidance councilor available to you?

Hellogoodbye114
Nov 3, 2011, 07:43 PM
Yes, however, I have never spoken to him before. And I am fairly certain my father emailed him as well. I typically prefer to solve my problems on my own, but this one I cannot, which is why I have turned to this site.

Hellogoodbye114
Nov 3, 2011, 07:54 PM
What would you recommend for me in a situation not involving my school's guidance counselor? Thank you!

CliffARobinson
Nov 3, 2011, 09:39 PM
Do you have a teacher that you trust? You need a third party, in my opinion, to mediate all sides on your behalf, or at least guide you in person. It sounds like you are caught in a bad situation. How old are you?

0rphan
Nov 4, 2011, 01:31 PM
Hi Hello,

I don't think you need worry about being accused of not telling your Father,if this were the case, then he would have had no knowledge of the situation,therefore would not have written to your principle, complaining about your music teacher going through you,as apposed to contacting him directly.This takes you out of the situation you speak of regarding- not informing your Father.

There are many mis-communications here,which have blown this whole thing out of proportion.
Yes, your father was angry:was it because he thought the repair would be of no charge,then learned via yourself that in fact there will be a charge,which is hardly any fault of your own,you could not have known this and I suspect neither did your music teacher.

I think you are worrying far too much about a situation that will quickly be resolved when the correct information has been given to all concerned.

You are obviously a very bright student, as you say straight A-award winning,your principal will think very highly of you and he will only want to hear the facts, without pointing the blame toward any one.
This is clearly a misunderstanding which will quickly be resolved given the facts.

Your principal and your music teacher will not have any problem toward you,they will both know that you did your best given the information that you were given at the time,there will be no animosity toward you what so ever.

If you feel the need, you can take it upon yourself to apologize for any mis-understandings that they may have,but I really don't think it will be necessary,you should go to school head held high and don't worry,you'll see things will be just fine.

Schools etc. are full of many mis-understandings by pupils and teachers alike,they are used to it,so please don't think that you are the only one,you will be one of many.