Ok I'm best friends with this girl I'll refer to as Kate (because I don't want to use her real name). Kate and I have been friends for about 4 months and we are both 11 years old. I do online school now and have been doing it since October of last year. Kate goes to public school.

She is the only one who will really be my friend now that I do homeschooling. We communicate with Skype and Facebook, and she comes over once and a while. I want to go back to school next year; the only reason I left in the first place was because of anxiety.

Kate is a little heavy, and I have been trying to help her to lose weight, but she isn't trying at all. She is black, and I am white. I don't really care about that except that she is a racist a lot and always says things like, "oh I'm black so I am going to have huge breasts and you're white so you have tiny ones." The really bad things are that, whenever she sees me, she hits me or hurts me in some way. This happens when I do something a little stupid, when I beat her at something, when I don't do something she wants me to do, pretty much for no reason at all.

I am skinnier than she is and weaker, so it is easy for her to really hurt me. She also NEVER listens to my problems or helps me in any way. And I'll tell her something I really care about or something funny, and she will either say "yay" in a sarcastic tone "thats great" and "that's special" or just in a not caring tone. I really feel sad and depressed when I'm around her and when she is mean to me. I try to change her to make her better, but it never works. She also finds it really funny when she hurts me or I get hurt or sad.

Now the only good things are that she is the only one who will be my friend because she doesn't care that I do homeschool. And she is also very mature like me, and can curse like I do. She will play games with me because I am like a really strict gamer, even though she is all *****y about playing it.

So pretty much I'm asking, should I ditch her and have to wait till the start of next year to have any friends? It will be hard to ditch her, by the way, or should I keep being friends with her and go through all the crap she gives me? I have told her to stop because things really bug me, plus I have threatened to take her off Skype and everything, but I don't want to have no friends.

There's only one way to change Kate, and that's to change yourself and how you act around her and react to what she says and does.

Don't be friends with this girl, just because you feel like you have no other option. She sounds vile and isn't worth your time. If you don't like her and it really sounds like you don't, drop her. Just because you're not in school, it doesn't mean you can't get other friends. Find activities, clubs, etc to get involved in. It's a great way to meet new people and people who are interested in the same things as you.
Chin up.

Also, on a side note.. cursing doesn't make you mature. Don't get me wrong, I do it fairly regularly, but know the time and place that it's acceptable. I'm just saying.. don't think you have to do it to be 'grown up'.

Hi britty,

You say Kate is Your only friend,well friends, don't behave toward other friends in that way.
Ask yourself one question,"would i keep Kate as my friend,if i had other friends?"I think you have already answered that by this post.

You say you've tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen,only makes sly remarks,in which case I would delete her from skype and Facebook,perhaps then she might take you seriously,and also think about the things that she has been saying and doing to you.Do not put up with this.

Try and move in a different circle, make some new friends, even if it's only through offering baby sitting services, you'll be surprised how you can meet new people.
Also, have you a youth club that you could go to, or maybe a club at the local church,swimming club,library book club etc etc...

Maybe meet some new people to chat too on Facebook.I am sure if you tried something completely different you would have many friends.