rabbit13
Oct 31, 2011, 04:38 PM
Just read a post for someone who asked when do you give up hoping your lover will come back, well the answer is when the pain of being a doormat to someone who don't give a crap becomes more painful then the pain of missing them.
I loved a lady so so much it hurt and then one day she tells me "we always knew our story had to end someday, I don't love you any more" just like that. A week later she tells me she has another guy, a week after that she tells me he is cool about her seeing me as a friend. In the space of just 13 days I go from lover, demoted to friend and my thanks for doing the right thing the grown up thing of being friends is she tells me her new guy is OK her hanging out with me like I'm some kind of fag-friend.
Now at this point I should have spat in her eye and gone round and beat the crap out of new guy but you know what I did... nothing. After two months of this garbage I decided on going NC and I stopped all contact with her, then after a few weeks I get a text saying she is coming back to work at the same place as me and to save my feelings she intends being discreet. Now in the mean time I'm getting on with my life I meet a new GF down at the gym and I tell her about the new lady in my life. The next thing you would think I had dumped her, she sends me texts saying what a great guy I am and even if she knows its over she still feels jealous and how she misses our conversations like it was me that dumped her and the fact I met someone three months after she dumped me seemed unimportant.
So now my head is really messed up I'm thinking is she still interested and it has an affect on my new relationship who tells me she don't want to be my rebound and moves on. Now my ex invites me to a party and breaks her neck to get me alone and we sit down to talk and she tells me she thinks she is in love with her new guy and its like she wants me to approve and give her my blessing or some such crap and this my friends is the point when you stop loving and say no more, I'm not playing your silly games anymore, I respect myself too much and at that moment all her power has gone, all the pain has gone and I see clear for the first time that she was using me as backup in case it all crap with pencil ****. I would be lying to say I'm happy now but I know it's a starting point for happiness to be free of someone who has such little respect for me.
I loved a lady so so much it hurt and then one day she tells me "we always knew our story had to end someday, I don't love you any more" just like that. A week later she tells me she has another guy, a week after that she tells me he is cool about her seeing me as a friend. In the space of just 13 days I go from lover, demoted to friend and my thanks for doing the right thing the grown up thing of being friends is she tells me her new guy is OK her hanging out with me like I'm some kind of fag-friend.
Now at this point I should have spat in her eye and gone round and beat the crap out of new guy but you know what I did... nothing. After two months of this garbage I decided on going NC and I stopped all contact with her, then after a few weeks I get a text saying she is coming back to work at the same place as me and to save my feelings she intends being discreet. Now in the mean time I'm getting on with my life I meet a new GF down at the gym and I tell her about the new lady in my life. The next thing you would think I had dumped her, she sends me texts saying what a great guy I am and even if she knows its over she still feels jealous and how she misses our conversations like it was me that dumped her and the fact I met someone three months after she dumped me seemed unimportant.
So now my head is really messed up I'm thinking is she still interested and it has an affect on my new relationship who tells me she don't want to be my rebound and moves on. Now my ex invites me to a party and breaks her neck to get me alone and we sit down to talk and she tells me she thinks she is in love with her new guy and its like she wants me to approve and give her my blessing or some such crap and this my friends is the point when you stop loving and say no more, I'm not playing your silly games anymore, I respect myself too much and at that moment all her power has gone, all the pain has gone and I see clear for the first time that she was using me as backup in case it all crap with pencil ****. I would be lying to say I'm happy now but I know it's a starting point for happiness to be free of someone who has such little respect for me.