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SabineGriffin
Oct 31, 2011, 10:33 AM
So, I'm not a parent, but I'm a nanny. I'm taking care of this 6 year old, and he's really interested in animals and also cavemen. The parents let him watch shows and movies about cavemen that, in my eyes, are way to mature for a 6 year old.

Now, he likes to roleplay and we often do cavemen, in which he's always what he calls 'the dominant male' and I'm the 'dominate female', and therefore we have to mate. He actually tried it once, and I said very clearly: "Stop, I don't think it is a good idea that we do this." He semi listened, since then we just pretend mate, he still get's way to close for my taste and then he wants me to pretend give birth to his babies. Besides that he is always trying to lay his head on my breasts, or laying a hand over them, I try to stop him, and explain but he just keeps on doing it. Sometimes after we played up close or cuddled or so, he goes in his room for privacy (which means he's going to masturbate). I don't think it is actually possible for a 6 year old to have thoughts like that, but since he's been watching these shows, he actually might know what he's doing? I'm not sure if I should address this issue with his parents, if I should try to stop him more forcefully or if this is just normal behaviour?

jenniepepsi
Oct 31, 2011, 10:48 AM
I have no words for this. I have tried and I cannot answer this question properly. All I can say is YES it is NORMAL. Good luck

Wondergirl
Oct 31, 2011, 11:23 AM
It's time to play a non-sexual game other than "Caveman." How about jigsaw puzzles or board games or playing cards ("War" or "Concentration").

You're the adult in this, so please redirect his inappropriate behavior without scolding him or even commenting to him.

violavel
Nov 6, 2011, 08:04 AM
This is a very odd situation, but I agree with wondergirl. Point him to the direction to know that this behavior is not OK. Don't yell at him, just ignore the subject and play a different game. Then if you are still his nanny when he gets to dating age (12-14 is the usual age to start dating) help him out with finding a girl that he may like

Fr_Chuck
Nov 6, 2011, 08:09 AM
Assuming it is true, ( although I doubt it) you are the person in charge and you make the child do or not do what you wish to do. If his game is wrong and it is, then don't do it, explain it is and don't play along