bombernate
Oct 31, 2011, 10:32 AM
Here is my situation: I have recently have met this wonderful girl, and we have been dating now for 5 months! The other day she sent me a message saying that she is scared to go one further with our relationship. A bit of history: She has mentioned to me numerous times on how well I been treating her, and she has never met anyone who has treated her so well, which I feel I have done because she is really an amazing person.
She is divorced with an ex who cheated on her. She told me that she does not want to lose someone close to her again. She has 2 kids who are 8 and does not want to hurt them also, which I agree. We have done a lot stuff together with the kids. I have stayed over without her kids, and she has stayed at my place. She has attended many of my kids' events.
Another reason she mentioned was that people dumped on her in the past and feels that she is not a great person. I keep telling her she is and told her that I will stand by her and support her no matter what and when she is ready, that she can talk to me about her issues.
So now she just wants to take a break from our relationship. I will respect that and have granted her wish. I also asked her when she does feel ready to date, can I be there for here, and she said yes. My question is that I am afraid to lose and willing to wait for her tell she is ready. I told her I am still here for here and if she needs anything, I am here for her.
My issue is I don't want to smother her with messages, but I also don't want her to think that I have forgotten about her as well. Any suggestions, let me know.
She is divorced with an ex who cheated on her. She told me that she does not want to lose someone close to her again. She has 2 kids who are 8 and does not want to hurt them also, which I agree. We have done a lot stuff together with the kids. I have stayed over without her kids, and she has stayed at my place. She has attended many of my kids' events.
Another reason she mentioned was that people dumped on her in the past and feels that she is not a great person. I keep telling her she is and told her that I will stand by her and support her no matter what and when she is ready, that she can talk to me about her issues.
So now she just wants to take a break from our relationship. I will respect that and have granted her wish. I also asked her when she does feel ready to date, can I be there for here, and she said yes. My question is that I am afraid to lose and willing to wait for her tell she is ready. I told her I am still here for here and if she needs anything, I am here for her.
My issue is I don't want to smother her with messages, but I also don't want her to think that I have forgotten about her as well. Any suggestions, let me know.