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rmbell01
Oct 29, 2011, 02:20 AM
The short of it:

Went out with this guy. He said he loved me. Then he dumped me. But said he still loved me. I moved on. He "moved" on. His girlfriend got pregnant. I got a different boyfriend. I fell in love with him.

Ex tells me he still loves me. Boyfriend cheats on me. Me devastated. Boyfriend treats me like ****. Talk to ex. I'm heart broken. Ex tries to help. We make out. I tell boyfriend because I feel guilty and I really do love him. He "forgives" me. Treats me like ****. Went through hell.

Try to block ex from my life because I want to do the right thing. Ex does not get it. Things get better with boyfriend after 10 months of hell. Ex calls me. Did not know number so I answered. Did not recognize it. He tells me he need to talk to me but I don't want to because I'm scared he will ruin my relationship. I hang up and tell him not to contact me. He gets mad and send me this text about how he just needed someone to talk to and that how dare I not be there for him when he is always there for me. Makes me feel like a terrible person.

I feel bad and try to talk to him because I want to be there for him because I feel so bad. I want to do the right thing because I love love my boyfriend. I just feel horrible because I feel like I messed up. I don't know why... I just need help and I need to get this out.

I did the right thing right? Or I don't know

talaniman
Oct 29, 2011, 03:10 PM
You did the right thing by getting the ex out of your life. Now you have to do it again, but this time stick to your guns, and don't let him blackmail you, or guilt you into doing what he wants.

He ain't worth all that feeling bad about.

DoulaLC
Oct 29, 2011, 03:20 PM
I agree with talaniman. If necessary, change your phone number to help avoid any contact with ex. You don't "owe" him anything.

Personally, I'd also re-examine the relationship with current boyfriend.

If he still treats you badly, what's the point of staying? If he has truly turned things around, then focus your attention where it belongs.

Jake2008
Oct 30, 2011, 07:38 AM
Your ex is now in a relationship, and has a child. That alone should be enough to block any and all contact with him.

Your current boyfriend is what you need to be dealing with. You have already crossed the line with your ex, and unless your current relationship can go through counselling to save it, with what sounds like multiple, serious problems, try to work on one thing at a time.

Should your current relationship end, and should your ex still pursue a relationship with you, please allow yourself some time between, to get yourself steady on your own two feet. Plot your OWN future, without anyone holding you back. What are your own plans for your life- college maybe? Pursuing a career?

Unless you want dead weight dragging you down, do what you need to do to develop confidence and independence in your own right. When you have done that, you won't NEED a man in your life, you will be in the position to judge what kind of person you will be involved with, under your own terms.

As long as your life revolves around two men who do not share potential for a strong happy, supportive future, for YOU, then I say drop both of them, and make your life what you want it to be.