wallabee4
Oct 28, 2011, 05:17 PM
I have another forum where I post and I have asked questions about a serious legal issue my Aunt (who about a year ago moved near me)is facing in a divorce. I describe much of the issue in a lot of detail but certainly never give any names, etc. I do at times refer to him as the 'foreman of the local machine shop' because what I am asking involves that duty of his being a foreman and his wife (my aunt) is so much older than he is and I make that distinction in a few places, too. Now the only way someone could identify me or my aunt is that I have a profile that correctly identifies the small town in which we both live. (actually I no longer live there but have never updated my profile). My Uncle has lived in that town his entire life.
My log-in name is also 'identifiable' not as my actual name but only because those who know that log-in name could glean it is 'me' from other sites where I use the same name (it's not Wallabee4), but again they would have to know me personally from off those sites (my real name does not appear on-line for public viewing but I have a few off-line communications made from those sites, so a handful of people I've corresponded with over a year or so would thus possibly be able to know my Uncle's real identity only if they searched other forums, found my posts, and thought about it long enough to give a damn. Obviously that's what he has done, as I made no notification of my posting anything anywhere. I used that forum as a sounding board/advice/comfort, much as I do here.
I will say that in frustration at times I have called him names in that forum and I have referred to him as a thief--pretty much for brevity sake I didn't bother to type 'alleged thief'and also I didn't think it mattered.
My soon-to-be ex-Uncle has included me named in a harassment lawsuit (really, truly, I got papers served!). He only recently discovered this forum (I'd have to guess that he's searched out anything he thought he could use in the divorce) and I've been posting various questions for about 7 months. He says that I slander him in what I ask on-line, that I've made numerous false accusations and misleading questions. (He says it's wrong that in a few questions I post that I 'pose' as him to ask the question. That's true. I am asking to get a certain viewpoint answer. Is there, do you think a problem with that?)
He goes into other accusations such as that I drive by his house slowly to harass him. (The speed limit there is 25 mph, so don't know how I could drive past quickly.) He says that I harassed him by standing in the hallway when he was at an AA meeting in the basement of our local library. When I saw that in the charges, I had to research the date, as it turned out I was in the library in another room for an author's book signing and my only recollection of being 'in the hallway' was when my daughter and I went to get a drink from the fountain. Evidently he saw me, but I hadn't seen him.
There are about 15 other incidents all about the same ilk, the worst probably being this slander he accuses me of in the question forum.
So, I'm coming here to hopefully have a safe place to ask. Thanks.
My log-in name is also 'identifiable' not as my actual name but only because those who know that log-in name could glean it is 'me' from other sites where I use the same name (it's not Wallabee4), but again they would have to know me personally from off those sites (my real name does not appear on-line for public viewing but I have a few off-line communications made from those sites, so a handful of people I've corresponded with over a year or so would thus possibly be able to know my Uncle's real identity only if they searched other forums, found my posts, and thought about it long enough to give a damn. Obviously that's what he has done, as I made no notification of my posting anything anywhere. I used that forum as a sounding board/advice/comfort, much as I do here.
I will say that in frustration at times I have called him names in that forum and I have referred to him as a thief--pretty much for brevity sake I didn't bother to type 'alleged thief'and also I didn't think it mattered.
My soon-to-be ex-Uncle has included me named in a harassment lawsuit (really, truly, I got papers served!). He only recently discovered this forum (I'd have to guess that he's searched out anything he thought he could use in the divorce) and I've been posting various questions for about 7 months. He says that I slander him in what I ask on-line, that I've made numerous false accusations and misleading questions. (He says it's wrong that in a few questions I post that I 'pose' as him to ask the question. That's true. I am asking to get a certain viewpoint answer. Is there, do you think a problem with that?)
He goes into other accusations such as that I drive by his house slowly to harass him. (The speed limit there is 25 mph, so don't know how I could drive past quickly.) He says that I harassed him by standing in the hallway when he was at an AA meeting in the basement of our local library. When I saw that in the charges, I had to research the date, as it turned out I was in the library in another room for an author's book signing and my only recollection of being 'in the hallway' was when my daughter and I went to get a drink from the fountain. Evidently he saw me, but I hadn't seen him.
There are about 15 other incidents all about the same ilk, the worst probably being this slander he accuses me of in the question forum.
So, I'm coming here to hopefully have a safe place to ask. Thanks.