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butterflyy4321
Oct 28, 2011, 02:07 PM
I'm 18 and I had unprotected sex, my boyfriend didn't "finish" and I got a bladder infection. I went to the doctors and I had to take urine and blood samples. My mom doesn't know I had sex, she would freak out if she knew, and now I have to get an ultra sound... I don't think I'm pregnant, he didn't "finish." But I want to be certain that I'm not pregnant and I don't have the money to get a pregnancy test... When I went back to the doctors to see my lab results, wouldn't the doctors know if I was pregnant or not? I had to give them urine and blood and they test for everything, so wouldn't they have told me if I was or not?
Wondergirl
Oct 28, 2011, 02:16 PM
Not "finishing" doesn't mean no sperm were released early on, so yes, you could be pregnant. And blood tests can be run for many things, depending on what has been ordered by the doctor. A pregnancy wouldn't show up if that particular test hadn't been ordered.
Once you've missed a period, take a hpt with first morning urine.
butterflyy4321
Oct 28, 2011, 02:23 PM
I took the morning after pill the next morning. And I started my menstrual cycle on October 8th. So my next period will be next month.
Fr_Chuck
Oct 28, 2011, 02:56 PM
Ok, call me silly, you have the money for doctors, you have money for ultrasounds, you have money for the morning after pill, so you don't have a dollar for a test at the dollar store ?
But then it may be too early at this point, you will need to wait till you miss your next period.
Also there are plenty of sperm in all the early fluids, so only being in a few seconds could be enough if there was a fast swimming sperm.
And I will be a little rude, if your mom can't know, and you can't even afford a pregancy test how do you plan on paying for a baby being born, for baby food, diapers and so on.
Also where is the boyfriend, is he not paying the bills for part of this
butterflyy4321
Oct 28, 2011, 03:28 PM
I'm not going to get into the personal details sir, but my mother has my insurance cards. I went to plan parenthood and They gave me the morning after pills, and my mom is going to pay for the ultra sound, my doc is looking at my bladder and kidneys...
Ya, right now I can only wait.
And if I am pregnant then I'm not going to hide it from her, I'm going to have to tell her. I know I was stupid, I'm not denying anything.
The boyfriend is in my corner. He's not running away from this, he's against abortions so if I'm pregnant, I'll face my fears, tell my mom and go from there.
butterflyy4321
Oct 28, 2011, 03:31 PM
Don't I have a better chance of not being pregnant, we didn't finish, I took the morning after pill the next morning. I'm just getting paranoid because I have to make an ultrasound appointment soon and my mom is going to be in the room with me.
DoulaLC
Oct 28, 2011, 04:06 PM
Given the circumstances, your odds of being pregnant are low.
You could always give the doctor's office a call and ask if they checked for pregnancy with your blood work. Did they go over your results with you? If you told the doctor that you were sexually active, it is possible pregnancy was tested for. A quick phone call would give you the answer.
butterflyy4321
Oct 29, 2011, 12:33 AM
Ya they went over the lab results with me and I got a hemorage/ spasm from his bacteria on his penis and the bacteria that I got is usually caused by unprotected sex. So I think the doctors knew the truth.
Fr_Chuck
Oct 29, 2011, 04:43 AM
Yes but did they do a pregnancy test, not just a test for infections.
And lower chance, If I put one bullet in a gun, that holds six, there is a lower chance I could shoot you, but do you want to let me try ? If the chance is one in 10,000, guess what you could be that one, so each time there is a chance
butterflyy4321
Oct 29, 2011, 07:57 AM
Thank you for the help.
martinizing2
Oct 29, 2011, 09:08 AM
Thank you for the help.
We will always be here to help.
Even if it sounds harsh at times , it is the reality of the situation and needs to be kept in mind.
I hope things work out as you wish , but make this a lesson learned at a much lower price than it could have been.