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jgrede23
Oct 26, 2011, 10:19 PM
Why am I being ignored by my girlfriend? She won't talk to me? It has been about a month now with no response from her. Yes, she goes to college 3 hours away and is very busy there, but all of a sudden a month ago she stopped talking to me... I have asked her what's wrong, I even sent her flowers and a I'm sorry card last week and never got a response from her. I haven't said anything to her sense... What is the deal?

DaniCalifornia
Oct 27, 2011, 03:35 PM
What did you send a sorry card or? I.E: What have you done to need to be sorry?

What happened the last time you spoke/were together? How long have you been together? If it's early in the relationship she might feel more suffocated. If you've been together a fair while she may just be busy. It is a bit strange for her to ignore you for three months, but there must be a reason. Ask once, then let her get back to you.

X Dani

DaniCalifornia
Oct 27, 2011, 03:35 PM
Oops *For a month

jgrede23
Oct 27, 2011, 07:18 PM
No, its been a month since she has talked to me. She came back in town last month for the weekend, I brought her to the Bears vs Packers game and I got real blacked out drunk and was a huge ******* and to be honest, now that you've mentioned maybe she feels suffocated, that could be it. Since she's been at school I am always the one calling or texting her and I'm sure she's living her life busy with school and sorority things. I was sorry because of the way I acted and I guess I have been a little controlling too and need to let her just live her life cause she's still in college. I just don't understand why she just shut me off, blocked me on Facebook, and wouldn't respond to any of my texts/calls. I just wish she could be mature and explain to me what is on her mind... because she's leaving me confused.

DaniCalifornia
Oct 28, 2011, 05:20 AM
Aye it was a typing error, sorry love.

She really has shut you off, hmm. It's possible you may have to let her go soon. It's been a long time since she's contacted you back, you've done all you can, made it clear you're sorry, and the ball is in her court. If she does it for much longer, I think you should get on with your own life, without her.

X Dani

jgrede23
Oct 28, 2011, 03:02 PM
Yea, I've really started to get over it. I'm realizing I need to get on with my life and concentrate and myself. If she comes around, she comes around, if not, than so be it. Her best friend tells me that she doesn't really make too much contact with anyone outside of school when she's back at school. If she wants to contact me, she will when she gets back in town, if not, oh well... thank you very much for your support and help. She is also just turning 20 years old this December, and not to mention, she is very very immature when it comes to relationships. She never wants to talk about anything like an adult. She just wants to live life and ignore any type of adult conversation.

odinn7
Oct 28, 2011, 03:16 PM
Yeah... it sounds like she is done with you but just doesn't want to tell you. Maybe she found someone else... who knows?

I think you are on the right track though. Just wait and see what happens next time she comes back. Don't keep sending her things and stop texting her and continue on with your life.

Best of luck to you.

jgrede23
Oct 28, 2011, 03:26 PM
It's so immature and petty of her not to explain herself and talk about it though, or just say what's up. It's like, what if she is doing this cause she is done, than when she comes back in town for thanksgiving weekend, she hits me up cause being home reminds her of hanging with me... I hope that doesn't happen, because by than I won't care anymore and would probably just give in

odinn7
Oct 28, 2011, 03:29 PM
Perhaps she just doesn't want to face you with this, you know? Or maybe she is just immature. It's tough no matter how you look at it. Sometimes people don't act the way we think they should and it sucks.

jgrede23
Oct 28, 2011, 03:36 PM
Yea, she never wants to talk about anything that has to do with relationships

jgrede23
Oct 29, 2011, 11:15 AM
What I don't understand is, we had such a good relationship and have so much in common, we should still be able to be friends. I don't understand why we just can't be friends or at least why she can't just talk to me... like, why the silent treatment? Is she just doing this on purpose and than she's going to pop up out of no where when she comes home one weekend or over thanxgiving or xmas break??

odinn7
Oct 29, 2011, 01:17 PM
There is really no way for any of us to know what's going through her mind. You're better off not beating yourself up over this.