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aluenee
Oct 26, 2011, 12:37 PM
My girlfriend,she studies in india,and she is now here back to own country.. Out of thirty five days vacation now only ten days remained. Recently we 've not met much.. Don't know what shall I do. We love each other, but I'm not satisfied with her. She rarely contacts me. I can't even ignore her because she'll have to get back to india. Then ignoring her is just waste of days that I could use to spend good times with her. We recently did our first kiss too. She loves me. But I feel bad when she uses internet but never call me online herself. Opposite to it is I wait for her to be online. Don't know what shall I do regarding this matter..
talaniman
Oct 26, 2011, 12:53 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/how-can-get-her-choose-between-her-existing-boyfriend-me-whom-she-loves-too-541072.html
Same girl?
vanheart
Oct 26, 2011, 03:51 PM
"We love each other"
"We recently did our first kiss too"
Aww, you're sweet, but.
Never speak for someone else.
If this isn't working for you, then make a different plan.
The world is huge.
mmresd
Oct 26, 2011, 06:09 PM
Focus on something else, not a girl that barely talks to you.
aluenee
Oct 27, 2011, 07:00 AM
Yeah this is same girl...
Just I'd posted one fb status..
You've been losing all the qualities for what you were supposed to be the special one in my life , do you think you still deserve to be in that place?
Just she saw it and got angry with me for writing such status.. She loves me . I know that. But I'm not being happy with her changed behaviours. Just before her exams,till that time she was so caring, but after that exam since four months, she is not as caring as she used to be . Today in a whole day,she just did contact with me three four times. If she'd not responsed me,I would 've kept trying call her many times and do repeatedly sms her. But she just did one two time call, I intentionally didn't receive it. But she stopped.. In seventeen days, we've just met each other for three days only... and in eight days she'll be leaving for india and will get back only after a year.
talaniman
Oct 27, 2011, 12:07 PM
I read your other posts and you didn't listen then, and aren't now. That's why you are stuck on someone that's NOT stuck on you, and need to let go, NOW!
She is doing her thing, and you have no thing to do. What's wrong with that picture? She has consumed you all year, and you have allowed it.
aluenee
Oct 27, 2011, 06:59 PM
Talaniman: its not that I'm blind in her love. I'm stucked because I love her so much and I know she does too.. Just is that she's not showy in caring as she used to be.. I've one big problem is I'm little negative thinker and thinks more than I should. She keeps saying don't over think. Its not like that bla bla.. But,I've kept saying her about her this way.. Can you leave if you love someone whom you consider to be with you for long life?
talaniman
Oct 27, 2011, 07:43 PM
Unless she was in my life by my side, yes I would leave her alone, heal, and get someone who wanted me, as much as I wanted her. Done it many times. We all have high hopes of love, but if we are not loved in return, that's a false love, and that's miserable my friend.
Been there, done that! You can't see it now, because you are stuck, but in time you will find it gets much better. After a proper healing, you will wonder what the big deal was.
vanheart
Oct 28, 2011, 04:13 PM
"i'm little negative thinker"
That's going to kill all relationships. Stop that asap.
Be positive that the world is your oyster. Maybe look next door.
And more importantly at yourself.
" i'm blind in her love" That's for sure.
Its not her love, just your wants & expectations.
This is your fantasy.