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blueeyedwoman
Oct 26, 2011, 01:09 AM
Still in love with ex boyfriend but married no children only been married for 5 mo.
My husbend is a great man but I still have deep feelings for my ex.
Ex boyfriend left me so I moved on and got married now he is saying leave him and be with me ill never let you go again . Realized what I had until you was gone . I'm only 20 I just don't know.
I never really stopped thinking about him. When I always said marriage is for life but now I'm starting to rethink
My ex is offring me the world or he joing the army he is a collage grad and from a vary well off family I'm still vary close to his family and have most of them on Facebook .just can't seem to let them go. Help!
He still makes me smile even looking at are old pics. I'm his longest girl friend ever
Now he saying he know what he wants that me he want a family with me he even cryed on the phone... When he was saying this... I think I sometimes see him but it just some guy that has the same hair nose or something stupied like that... And he has dated a lot of girl but they never last long he said he can't find another girl like me or even close... Help please

Cat1864
Oct 26, 2011, 09:40 AM
I think you need to end all contact with your ex. Do not instigate contact and do not accept any contact from him. It is causing you to become confused and put energy into something you need to let go.

How long were you single between your ex and when you began dating your husband? How long did you date your husband before marrying him? Did you date anyone else between these two relationships?

I think you might want to look into counseling for yourself and your marriage. While I think you may have moved from one relationship into the next one faster than perhaps you should have, I do think you need to give your marriage a chance to work. Be open with your husband that you are having doubts about the marriage and want to try to resolve them. He deserves to know there are issues. He doesn't deserve to be dumped for an ex who is trying to woo you away from being a loyal, faithful wife. (Let's be honest, if you left your husband for the ex, then the ex would be wondering who you would leave him for and would use that insecurity to control your every move and friendship.)

Quite frankly, I wouldn't trust a word that your ex has to say. To me it sounds like someone who doesn't want anyone else to have his toy even though he threw it away.

I think you would be making a big mistake if you gave up a stable relationship for a promise that is easily broken. Your past relationship is gone. You cannot get it back no matter what the ex says.

Give your marriage a chance and let the ex and the past go once and for all. Stop allowing him to confuse you.

talaniman
Oct 26, 2011, 12:26 PM
You made a commitment to your husband so honor it by cutting all contact with him, and his family. Let go of the past and do not be tempted by promises from the ex.

Build a future, with the man you committed to, and let the past go.

vanheart
Oct 26, 2011, 02:52 PM
Does you husband know how much you are in love with your ex?

How would you feel?

He thinks he's #1.

mmresd
Oct 26, 2011, 05:06 PM
Go no contact with you ex, focus on your relationship now. Erase any way he could contact you, and be faithful. You will get over him eventually.

tigers2
Oct 27, 2011, 08:02 AM
Answer to your heart. I am 44 years old and have been married twice. The first time was to get out of the house and realized it was a big mistake. The second time is my high school sweetheart I never got over. He said the same thing. All the women he dated cheated on him and out of all these years he never got over me and wished we would have married right out of high school. We have been married 15 years now and have 3 cbhildren. Im still in love with him.. I wish you luck..