All right so I'm in a really hard situation right now and I'm going to give you guys the whole spill of things.

Before I say anything, she has been dating this guy for 3 months and he is in New York while we are in college at Ohio right now. So I'm the guy with her 24/7 while she continues a long distance relationship with her boyfriend.

We met the first day of college here (we're freshman) and ever since then we have texted practically every day and hung out at least 3-4 times every week. We kissed once when we were drunk after knowning each other for around a week. She then told me it meant nothing and I agreed because I just wanted to continue to get to know her. Before you judge her, you got to understand her personality. She always asks me what she should do and if what she did was bad. She won't say it meant nothing but she'll look at me and was say, "Well it meant nothing, right. We are fine." We have became very close friends right now and have a connection like unother. Me and her always talk about how close we are and how well we get alone since the first day we met.

Recently, this weekend (known her for 2 months now) we hung out both Friday and Saturday. On Friday we watched movies and she would rub my hair, put her head on my shoulder, and then I mentioned that my friend likes getting his ear kissed and she did it to me? Me and her agreed it wasn't weird or anything, but I basically agreed because I don't want to stop seeing her at all. (I REAAAAALLY like her a lot, I've never got along with a girl like this before.) Well on Saturday we came back to my dorm, barely drunk anymore and we cuddled on my bed for awhile (spooning basically). Then she attacked my ear again and it got actually kind of fiesty but no kissing. She texted me the next day saying, "I fell really bad for what I did last night and I feel like a bad girlfriend, what should I do?" I texted her saying its no big deal, we didn't kiss blah blah blah and she was like, "Okay thanks tom, I am jus freaking out." Then we hung out that day again but just went to the library.

She has tells me a lot of stuff, even more things than she tells her boyfriend. But I will admit she always says her and her boyfriend are really happy. She visited him a couple of weekends ago and told me all about it. She tells me about the sex and all that. I know everything about this girls sex life, how she likes it, and she knows everything about mine. There are no kept secrets, we are practically best friends to the complete tee right now.

So know you know all about us. But she always talks to her boyfriend to me and says how she wants to be with him blah blah. She talks about him a lot! She always says that I am her best friend and she is very thankful she got to know me up her because she can be so close to me so soon and see's us becoming even better friends. I got a text saying that she was so glad she met me the other night actually. But all this was before this weekend happened. She gets so flirt and sexual with me its ridic.

I have a feeling that she "likes" me but is nervous to give up her stable relationship with her boyfriend for someone she has only known for barely 2 months. I want to keep this great friendship going to see if it leads somewhere but I have gained a ton of feelings for her and I am started to become really hurt that I know I won't have a chance till god knows when. Also, she never cheats like this before. She told me all about her past and she seems really honest. That's why I'm in this pridicament because if she is so happy with her boyfriend why does she want to see me so much, kiss me, and hold my hand when she's drunk haha. Like when she is drunk, she wants to be around me 24/7 and literally acts like I'm her boyfriend.

I have confessed my feelings early, like the second week we were hanging out. I said I can't continue to be friend with her because I don't want to get hurt. But she would call me the next day asking to hang and I would always say yes like a idiot.

I know all of you are going to say she is just leading me on but I honestly feel that she has feelings for me but wants to become even better friends and see if I am boyfriend material. But yes, it could be very possible that she loves the attention and likes leading guys on. She does have a lot of guy friends too but doesn't hang out with any of them the amount she does with me.

I just don't know what to do guys and gals. Should I continue to keep this best friend thing going with her and see where the future goes and risk myself getting really hurt in the end. Or should I end this friendship right now. I don't want to end the friendship because she is one of my best friends up here and I am not used to college without hanging out with her a lot. I'm nervous that if I end it, I will only get hurt more because I won't get to see her. I have YET to met a girl up here that even comes remotely close to how much fun we have together. It almost seems that I'm her boyfriend her but nothing sexual... honestly.

Much help needed and thanks for reading this novel.

I'll give you the short. #1
Don't date girls with boyfriends.

She's cheating on her boyfriend with you. Playing you the whole time.

Get real.

"she "likes" me but is nervous to give up her stable relationship"
Really?

""We kissed once when we were drunk"
Whoo hoo. So what?

She preys on guys like you. While she dates others.

Stay away.




Who's her boyfriend, again?

You? Im confused.

If she were honestly your friend, she would understand how her behavior is hurting you (YOU TOLD HER) and respect your need for space. A friend would be waiting for you when you have had a chance to get over those feelings and truly establish a healthy friendship. She is using you and she will continue to use you as a cuddly fill-in for her boyfriend as long as you let her. You say she isn't the type to cheat, but SHE IS because she is doing it. She is cheating on him, and using you when he isn't available. She isn't going to leave him for you. If she does leave him, she may cuddle up to you until she finds the next guy and then do the same thing because she knows you'll be there puppy-eyed and waiting.

Please save yourself anymore heartache. This isn't a friend. This is a childish, and selfish woman. Tell her this... "I have feelings for you, and the closeness and intimacy we have in this relationship is hurtful and confusing for me because I know you have a boyfriend. I need some time to be okay with the feelings I have before we can be around each other so much. I hope that you understand and will give me the time and space I need to get over those feelings and actually be a friend." If she can't do that, then she is using you for her own needs and doesn't care about your needs or feelings. Friendship is a two way street. She needs to start giving and stop taking.

Leave her alone, she is off limits to you, and if she is cheating on her boyfriend with you, why is that you want to be the boyfriend she will one day cheat on for? Or are you silly enough to think that once she is with you she will change to being faithfull?

Poor guy, can't you see if she did becoming your girlfriend, she would have another guy friend to be with her when you are not.

That's why you get your own, and leave girls with boyfriends alone.

You know what? This girl is too wild. Maybe you know her really well. But I mean really.
In some way, in a little way, I can relate to her. So I know.
Here's what it is.. she loves her boyfriend. And likes you. Because she hangs around with you the most,
She will act around with you like that. And in case it doesn't work out with her and her boyfriend,
She will come crying to you. You're her second option. Remember that, second options aren't always a good thing. And do you like her, or love her? Think about that honestly (if you can tell the difference between like and love).. and just ask yourself this, "if we ever start dating, would she get drunk and do the same thing she did to me as what she did to her last boyfriend?"
THINK-ABOUT-IT.

I agree.
Stop being a wuss.

Let her be with her boyfriend, and you get another agenda.

What? Beg for some flooze to leave her boyfriend?
I would question yourself, not her. Seriously.
Maybe take a look at her boyfriend. Hang out with him, become best friends. Pal around.
Maybe you both can compare notes later. After she blows both of you off.

Sorry. You know what I mean.