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I been with my GF for nearly 2 years and we live together, recently she's started talking to other boys, going on omegle, tagged, talking to her ex's and crying over them...

I just called her upstairs for a chat and she said to me "I do still love you, I'm just bored..."

It's incredibly rare for sex, I mean, incredibly rare, started like 5 times a day and now it's once every 2 months? Something like that.

She was going to cheat on me in the past but I found out and stopped her in her tracks and she promised me she will not talk to anyone else, yet she is still talking to a lot of other males, She's 18 I'm 19 by the way, I just don't know what to do anymore, I love her so much but I don't want to be with her if she's bored, I don't know what I can possibly do to make her love me hold me and kiss me, does anyone know what I can do? I don't trust her, whenever I look over the shoulder at what she's going on laptop she gets extremely irritated like she's trying to hide something but her excuse is "you do it all the time, it gets annoying"...

I need to know the million dollar question:

Shall I just keep going, talk to her (I keep trying to but she keeps saying talk about it tomorrow" then tomorrow never comes..

Leave her, just forget about it, it's going to be extremely hard, I have ever been in so much love as I am with her, or anything else.

I just want some help, I'm getting torn to pieces and it hurts me just having to type "my girlfriend is bored of me" just thinking about it makes me cry, I don't know what to do, I'm just in tears over her and all I want to do is be happy with her

Please help, I can't handle this anymore

Don't confuse boredom, with bad disrespectful behavior, nor dependence with love. Decide how you want to be treated, what's right what's wrong, and if she isn't willing to work with you to resolve issues and build a happy life, dump her, and do better.

Keep it real, keep it honest.

You seem like a really great person. Most the boys I know never worry about losing their girlfriends. I don't think it's right the way she's treating you! She is a very lucky girl to have you! But maybe she is going through a tough time and feeling unloved and wants some extra attention. Maybe you could give one last huge effort to try change her mind. You could try surprising her, sending her out for the day to a beauty spa with one of her sisters or female friend and when she comes home have a romantic meal waiting for her. Treat her like a princess for the night. And then take things to the bedroom? If this doesn't work then it sounds to me like she doesn't know how lucky she is. And you should walk away, as hard as it may be just find the strength to let her go. And the chances are she will come running back when you have moved on.

"She was going to cheat on me in the past but I found out and stopped her in her tracks"
That isn't a good start.

Here's the thing:

If she's not floating your boat, then either fix it or move on. Talk honestly about things.

Sounds like you never trusted her. And maybe she isn't as invested as you are. Go figure.

Sex is one thing. Relationships are another.

Why do you like each other?

You don't need to know a million dollar anything. She is done, if she is staying is only while she makes up her mind. This relationship is over, I know it from personal experience. Her feelings towards you have changed; And you are in one of the most vicious cycles known in relationship history. You are always checking on her because you are afraid to lose her, and you push her away every time you do that. She no longer wants to have attachments and you have become a simple obstacle in her reaching fun. She is young, she wants to experience things, and she has noticed that she is not ready to settle down with you, therefore, this is on a timer. Move on, find someone who knows what they want and that treat you with the respect you deserve, respect yourself. If she wants to cheat she will, and for all you know she already has, it might even be why the sex is not there anymore. Don't ask questions, move on and find something better, it won't be hard, trust me.

Sorry you are in this situation. Based on all that you've said, I doubt she is really in this relationship for the long haul. It sounds to me like she is with you until someone "better" comes along. I'm not trying to be mean, and I'm sorry if it seems I am. I think based on the disrespect she gives you, you are better off dumping her and moving on. I know it hurts but you will probably wind up hurting more if you let this keep on going.

You can do better. Believe in yourself.

Take care.