I am 25; my boyfriend is 32. We have been dating only a year, living together for the last 8 months, and I am 6 months pregnant with his first, my second. Needless to say, we moved extremely fast.

At first, like in any relationship, we were very intimate, and he was always texting me and letting me know how much he loved me, was very affectionate overall. He was the romantic, and I was/we were very in love. Shortly after we moved in together, he stopped with all of that almost overnight. He got laid off at work, and started watching A LOT of porn.

Before I was pregnant I was about 135, not the skinniest, but not overweight by any means. I have large breasts, and I was very proud of my body. The porn he was watching featured extremely skinny girls with very small breasts, almost flat-chested. The girls were also very young. Some 16. It got very bad, to the point where I would wake up in the middle of the night to him masturbating and watching porn in the bed right next to me.

We constantly fought about it. I told him I would leave him if he didn't stop. He said he really loved me and that he didn't want to lose me, so he stopped. I have not stumbled across any porn in the history on the computer or his cell phone. I have also stopped looking as an effort to build trust. I still catch him masturbating from time to time in bed next to me at night.

Now that I am pregnant he is a little more affectionate. For example, he might put his arm around me for a minute when we go to bed. He gives me a kiss when I drop him off at work. Outside of that, nothing. He seems very distant, is not motivated by anything. He is on call at the job he got laid off from, collects unemployment, doesn't even try to look for a job.

He watches my 2 & 1/2 year old son while I'm at work and that's it. He is very good with my son. He is a better father to him than my son's real father ever could be. I am not happy. I work like 50 hours a week as a restaurant manager while 6 months pregnant. He sits at home all day, doesn't clean or do laundry--or really do anything at all.

I feel unattractive, unwanted, and stuck because I'm pregnant with his son. I feel the relationship is over and has been for a while, just don't know what is the right thing to do. Do I kick him out and have this baby on my own and set up some type visitation? Or do I suffer and be unhappy for the sake of my children? I feel like it would be easier without him.

I feel like I am taking on the role of being his mother. He lived with his mother until we moved in together. He is a good guy over all, but his lack of motivation, and the fact that I don't think he is attracted to me anymore makes me wonder if this relationship is still a relationship because it's convenient for the both of us. His friends tell me that he has changed and he talks about how much he loves me, but I don't see it from him. Unless he is drunk, that is.

When he drinks, he drinks a lot, gets drunk, and then tells me how much he loves me. And how he wants to marry me. He is very loving and affectionate then. What do I do?

Ps I do love him very much. I just feel like I am the only one doing anything in this relationship. The guy I fell in love with is in there somewhere. Something just needs to bring him back. I want this relationship to work but don't know what to do.

Have you ever suggested couples counseling for the two of you?

For one, a guy doesn't need porn to masterbate. Second, just tell him to do the laundry and have dinner ready when you get home.

Third, when he is jacking off next to you either help him, or go back to sleep.

Fourth, you are pregnant and emotional, and a lot more experienced than he is, so you will have to teach him what you expect, because obviously he doesn't know, and can't read minds.

You have only been with the guy a year, there is still a lot you both have to learn, and a life changing event like a new baby ain't helping, so relax and learn to talk, not fight, and tell him how wacky and out of sorts pregnant females are.

You do know that females are wacky and out of sorts when they are pregnant don't you? Really,. really!

Cop on the two of ye think of the child on the way is it his or her fault to be born into a ****ed up life. Goooooood start ye made him or her stop putting silly or selfish ideas first , I have 3 kids who don't live with me if I could turn back time I would have changed my life big time ,