jungleman12
Oct 16, 2011, 11:59 AM
The situation is as follows. I was dating this girl for about a year. After a year we were constantly arguing over stupid things and it doesn't help that we are both jealous, sometimes she would be jealous and sometimes I would let my jealousy out which I know I shouldn't. I ended up getting fed up mostly because I wanted to try new things and other people. When I broke up with her she called me many times for an explanation. I TEXTED her back explaining to her that all we do is argue, that she will find somebody else eventually and that what we had was only going to be looked at as an experience to her.
This is all wrong wrong wrong... I wasn't thinking. Well that was that and we stopped talking. I ended up going out a lot of times throughout the summer and she was sort of out of my mind. One night I saw her at a party I was it, she was with a friend and right after I saw her I started feeling remorse for what I said to her, maybe it was the fact that I saw her again. So I contacted her after I saw her and she spoke to me. We arranged to meet up and we did. We went to lunch and then we went for a walk downtown.
During our walk I explained to her that I felt remorse for what I did and that I was looking for another chance. She told me that she was surprised I was speaking to her again but that she didn't want a relationship from anyone. We then went on a boat ride during the same meet up and well I insisted on her that I had changed. She kept telling me she didn't want it. After that night we kept speaking and she came over to my home one night so we could hang out, we watched a movie and it was a normal night except for the fact that I asked for her back again and it kept frustrating me that she was denying me. I even tried kissing her, I don't know what is wrong with me. I've never been in this situation before either. After her coming over I sort of tapered off from talking to her for a bit as did she.
After a couple of weeks I contacted her again and we spoke normally, she wanted me to go to her soccer games but I couldn't because I was working on all the days. At this point I started becoming desperate and showing it. I went to her house and brought her flowers asking for her to forgive what I did, she accepted them but told me that she didn't want a relationship and all that. I kept persisting and went to her home with Godiva chocolates with a note inside written by me, a note I wrote for her explaining what I had done was wrong. She didn't open the door for me and I left them outside. I ****ed up big time.
After all this I called her the following days and she didn't answer my calls, nor would she accept my invites to hang out. I explained to her through text that I already lost her before and that I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend if she is willing to be, she said yes. After this she began to message me every day, wishing me a happy thanksgiving, asking me things and speaking to me. She still wouldn't answer my calls and if I asked her to hang out she would say I don't know or simply 'I don't want to'. I decided to explain to her that I would never only see her as a friend and that I need to stop acting the way I am because it is driving me crazy.
She asked me what is she supposed to do about all this and I told her nothing. I wished her well in the future and that was it.
I know what I did wrong. I showed too much emotion, I did all this stuff rather than playing it cool. I gave in too much and I got lost in it. I know what I did wrong.
This is all wrong wrong wrong... I wasn't thinking. Well that was that and we stopped talking. I ended up going out a lot of times throughout the summer and she was sort of out of my mind. One night I saw her at a party I was it, she was with a friend and right after I saw her I started feeling remorse for what I said to her, maybe it was the fact that I saw her again. So I contacted her after I saw her and she spoke to me. We arranged to meet up and we did. We went to lunch and then we went for a walk downtown.
During our walk I explained to her that I felt remorse for what I did and that I was looking for another chance. She told me that she was surprised I was speaking to her again but that she didn't want a relationship from anyone. We then went on a boat ride during the same meet up and well I insisted on her that I had changed. She kept telling me she didn't want it. After that night we kept speaking and she came over to my home one night so we could hang out, we watched a movie and it was a normal night except for the fact that I asked for her back again and it kept frustrating me that she was denying me. I even tried kissing her, I don't know what is wrong with me. I've never been in this situation before either. After her coming over I sort of tapered off from talking to her for a bit as did she.
After a couple of weeks I contacted her again and we spoke normally, she wanted me to go to her soccer games but I couldn't because I was working on all the days. At this point I started becoming desperate and showing it. I went to her house and brought her flowers asking for her to forgive what I did, she accepted them but told me that she didn't want a relationship and all that. I kept persisting and went to her home with Godiva chocolates with a note inside written by me, a note I wrote for her explaining what I had done was wrong. She didn't open the door for me and I left them outside. I ****ed up big time.
After all this I called her the following days and she didn't answer my calls, nor would she accept my invites to hang out. I explained to her through text that I already lost her before and that I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend if she is willing to be, she said yes. After this she began to message me every day, wishing me a happy thanksgiving, asking me things and speaking to me. She still wouldn't answer my calls and if I asked her to hang out she would say I don't know or simply 'I don't want to'. I decided to explain to her that I would never only see her as a friend and that I need to stop acting the way I am because it is driving me crazy.
She asked me what is she supposed to do about all this and I told her nothing. I wished her well in the future and that was it.
I know what I did wrong. I showed too much emotion, I did all this stuff rather than playing it cool. I gave in too much and I got lost in it. I know what I did wrong.