al_dj
Oct 7, 2011, 06:54 AM
I am new to this website but from what I read I believe you do a great job in giving advice to those who need it.
And I need your advice too on what follows:
I'm an about 30-year-old guy who has his entire life questioned his sexual orientation. It's funny but I've come to the point where I don't recognize myself anymore. Not knowing who I really was or what I really wanted, I started experimenting with either sex too late (I first had sex with a male at 26, and with a female at 27). I don't know whether I'm bi,or gay,what to do or not to do from now on. I feel completely lost!
Well, I've fallen for several beautiful girls till now but, for some reasons, I didn't have sex with any of them. The limited sexual contacts I had with women (2-3 times in all)were more kind of quickies, which made me feel pretty tense, and not have adequate erection. I can rather easily attach to girls emotionally speaking but, at the same time, I have long been overwhelmed by performance anxiety, which has kept me far from girls, and which also has infused fear of women into me sexually speaking. And with men, I get aroused much more easily while with women oral stimulation would alleviate the problem.
With males, I have had more contacts. I tend to look at good-looking guys (just as I like to appreciate a woman's beauty). When I talk to them, and get to know them closely, I start not to think about them sexually. Since I haven't been in a relationship, I had several quickies with males recently but I felt empty after each sexual experience, asking myself "IS THAT ALL?". It seems that I only like them from a distance or in my thoughts but no real sexual contact, or physical touch!
Now, I've decided that there's no point in having sex with men at all, which I don't know whether will have any influence on my contact with girls.
It's high time I started settling and creating a family [which I really like] but I'm positive that I don't want such a thing with a male(though I get aroused more easily with them sexually). I have never thought of having a male partner in marriage!
Some advice on your part would considerably help.
Thanks a lot!
And I need your advice too on what follows:
I'm an about 30-year-old guy who has his entire life questioned his sexual orientation. It's funny but I've come to the point where I don't recognize myself anymore. Not knowing who I really was or what I really wanted, I started experimenting with either sex too late (I first had sex with a male at 26, and with a female at 27). I don't know whether I'm bi,or gay,what to do or not to do from now on. I feel completely lost!
Well, I've fallen for several beautiful girls till now but, for some reasons, I didn't have sex with any of them. The limited sexual contacts I had with women (2-3 times in all)were more kind of quickies, which made me feel pretty tense, and not have adequate erection. I can rather easily attach to girls emotionally speaking but, at the same time, I have long been overwhelmed by performance anxiety, which has kept me far from girls, and which also has infused fear of women into me sexually speaking. And with men, I get aroused much more easily while with women oral stimulation would alleviate the problem.
With males, I have had more contacts. I tend to look at good-looking guys (just as I like to appreciate a woman's beauty). When I talk to them, and get to know them closely, I start not to think about them sexually. Since I haven't been in a relationship, I had several quickies with males recently but I felt empty after each sexual experience, asking myself "IS THAT ALL?". It seems that I only like them from a distance or in my thoughts but no real sexual contact, or physical touch!
Now, I've decided that there's no point in having sex with men at all, which I don't know whether will have any influence on my contact with girls.
It's high time I started settling and creating a family [which I really like] but I'm positive that I don't want such a thing with a male(though I get aroused more easily with them sexually). I have never thought of having a male partner in marriage!
Some advice on your part would considerably help.
Thanks a lot!