I've been married twice to two abusive husbands. One for 30 years and I divorced him. The second was about 4 years and he passed away after having a stroke. When we were married about 3 months, his abuse was so bad that I began to have upper body tremors.I knew it was the stress of taking care of him and the abuse. After he passed away, the tremors stopped. After about 2 years, I met a man that I thought was God sent. He was so nice, but after 2 years of dating, my tremors have started again. I think the reason is that I don't want to be with him anymore, because he is changing on me. Can that be causing the tremors to start back, because I do not want to be with this man anymore. I have been to my doctor.

Stop being with him, and the tremors might stop. Stop being with him because you no longer want to be with him.
What did your doctor say?

Seems like you only feel the tremors when you are with abusive guys.

Start there. Kind of like drugs.

"I do not want to be with this man anymore"

So don't.