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John700
Sep 28, 2011, 12:37 AM
I like this girl, who happens to have a boyfriend, I am in high school and I am a senior. The girl is a freshman, and she has a boyfriend with whom she has been with for quite some time, around 1 year, then they broke off.. For a year and got back together, and are 5 months again. She doesn't hug him or kiss him, or nothing a boyfriend and girlfriend would do. It looks like she doesn't like him very much, but when I ask, she says he's a great guy. She is really pretty, and I am falling for her, we text, and we talk everyday. I respect her relationship but I really like her. In 2 weeks she invites me to knotts scary farm w/ her friends. She said she is not inviting her boyfriend, and we have been getting close these past days. All her friends are cool and I think they all like me as a friend. I told 2 of her friends that I like her. And they are both going to knots. Question is should I try to capitalize or respect her relationship? Cause I don't Want to be the guy she cheated on her boyfriend with, cause I don't want her to do that to me, if we do go out. Karma is a *****! I don't want it biting me in the ***. What should I do?

Jake2008
Sep 28, 2011, 04:12 AM
First of all, how old is she, and how old are you?

It is never, ever a good idea to entertain a relationship with someone, who is already in a relationship. By telling her friends that you like her, knowing that gets back to her, is really setting yourself up for trouble.

Why? Because she has a boyfriend. She is involved with someone else. She should be off limits. It's never okay to pursue a new relationship with someone who is in an existing relationship, no matter what you may think to justify it (ie. The boyfriend is no good for her).

By doing what you are doing so far, is also a stab in the back to her boyfriend, and is not a very honourable thing to do to another guy.

And, sorry to disappoint you, but I don't think it is okay to meet her anywhere, pre-arranged, for the two of you to spend time together, behind her boyfriends back. That also doesn't say much for her to be doing that either.

My advice to you is to be honest. Tell her that you have developed feelings for her, and if she is ever single again, to give you a call.

Then cut your losses and look for someone in the meantime, who is available.

I wish
Sep 29, 2011, 11:39 AM
Aside from the fact that she has a boyfriend, there's also a huge age gap between the two of you. Freshman and Senior. You're about to graduate and leave high school, while she's only in her first year.

I strongly suggest that you find someone else to like.

John700
Oct 19, 2011, 06:00 PM
Well I am senior in high school, and there is a girl at school, that I like a lot, I talk to her everyday, and text everyday. She had a boyfriend and I respected that, so I was just a friend to her. But one day she asked me who I liked and I told her it was her. She told me she was growing feelings for me too. So she broke up with her boyfriend the next day. And we kicked it off good.

Then on that same week she broke up with her boyfriend we went to knotts. We held hands and hugged all night. We kissed a couple of times. It was a great day. But then next week she told me she wanted to take things slow. So I agreed, to not push her into a relationship so quick.

But ever since then she has avoided me some what. And she doesn't pay attention to me as much and it kills me. So I got mad one day, and decided to not talk to her or text. She asked me if something was wrong. And I told her yes. She just smiled and walked away. She later asked me what was wrong and I told her she doesn't put enough effort into our "relationship" so I forgave her.

The next week which is this week. She ignored me on Monday completely and she got mad cause I didn't talk to her. So she forgave me. And yesterday. We had a good time at school and what not. But after school I walked her to her friends house. I asked her " YOU KNOW I REALLY LIKE YOU RIGHT"? She just said yes. And I told her why has she been acting all weird and mean and she said. She doesn't want to talk about it "shes not in the mood to talk about US" then, I was trying to hug her, but it looked like she was uncomfortable. So I just let it go.

So when she got their she just walked in and said goodbye john. No hug or anything which is really weird cause she always hugs me before she leaves. So I went home angry. I talked to her best friend. And she said to give her time. Its been 3 weeks since she broke up with her boyfriend. How long should I wait.

And she acted like nothing happened and just texted me all happy and stuff last night. So I just followed along and played it cool. But this morning I texted her. And no reply. I texted her again a little later like at 5:00 and no reply. -_-. I'm tired of this I want her to show me how she feels for me but I understand I have to give her time. But its not cool the way she is acting.

My question is. Should I just move on or wait and give her time? I really like this girl. And I haven't had a girlfriend in a year and a half. &. I don't like girls like that I feel she is special in a way). Should I ask her if she likes me? Or does she just want me as a friend?

Mac18
Oct 20, 2011, 12:21 AM
I feel like I am in the sitiuation as you just wait and give her time than she should come around because if you really do like her than you should be able to wait

talaniman
Oct 20, 2011, 02:58 PM
So now you got the girl, and can't wait for the cuddles and kisses. No telling how long it will take her to figure it out. Plus you are a senior, she is a freshman, and I bet she has more options than just you who already think she should be yours.

Too bad she doesn't see it that way, so NO don't wait, find another girl your age to cuddle, kiss, and hold hands with because special means nothing unless you are special to them.

Plus guy, you move to fast, and expect too much, and I think she just loves attention. She may be uses you to make her ex jealous, who knows.

Don't wait. Move on.

John700
Dec 5, 2011, 12:53 AM
Well I am senior in high school, and there is a girl at school, that I like a lot, I talk to her everyday, and text everyday. She had a boyfriend and I respected that, so I was just a friend to her. But one day she asked me who I liked and I told her it was her. She told me she was growing feelings for me too. So she broke up with her boyfriend the next day. And we kicked it off good.

Then on that same week she broke up with her boyfriend we went to knotts. We held hands and hugged all night. We kissed a couple of times. It was a great day. But then next week she told me she wanted to take things slow. So I agreed, to not push her into a relationship so quick.

But ever since then she has avoided me some what. And she doesn't pay attention to me as much and it kills me. So I got mad one day, and decided to not talk to her or text. She asked me if something was wrong. And I told her yes. She just smiled and walked away. She later asked me what was wrong and I told her she doesn't put enough effort into our "relationship" so I forgave her.

The next week which is this week. She ignored me on Monday completely and she got mad cause I didn't talk to her. So she forgave me. And yesterday. We had a good time at school and what not. But after school I walked her to her friends house. I asked her " YOU KNOW I REALLY LIKE YOU RIGHT"? She just said yes. And I told her why has she been acting all weird and mean and she said. She doesn't want to talk about it "shes not in the mood to talk about US" then, I was trying to hug her, but it looked like she was uncomfortable. So I just let it go.

So when she got their she just walked in and said goodbye john. No hug or anything which is really weird cause she always hugs me before she leaves. So I went home angry. I talked to her best friend. And she said to give her time. Its been 3 weeks since she broke up with her boyfriend. How long should I wait.

And she acted like nothing happened and just texted me all happy and stuff last night. So I just followed along and played it cool. But this morning I texted her. And no reply. I texted her again a little later like at 5:00 and no reply. -_-. I'm tired of this I want her to show me how she feels for me but I understand I have to give her time. But its not cool the way she is acting.

My question is. Should I just move on or wait and give her time? I really like this girl. And I haven't had a girlfriend in a year and a half. &. I don't like girls like that I feel she is special in a way). Should I ask her if she likes me? Or does she just want me as a friend?

pahlp
Dec 6, 2011, 06:42 PM
Please move on. If she was really interested you wouldn't have to ask that question in the first place. Make like a ghost and disappear from her life and find someone who will leave no doubt in your mind that they dig you.

talaniman
Dec 7, 2011, 02:30 PM
Move on guy because this kid is making you look like a desperate fool.