I've been dating a wonderful person for 4 months. We've had reasonable amounts of alcohol together and he hasn't been drunk often- just once on his birthday and he was fine (not a "bad" drunk). He told me he went out of town this weekend for a friend's birthday and he had 14 drinks. FOURTEEN! This is beyond binge drinking and shows really poor judgement to me. I thought he was mature and responsible but now I really question that. I don't know anyone in my life who's had that much in a night. It sounds like a big problem to me because if he makes a bad choice with how much to drink, who knows what else? That amount of alcohol could really harm someone. What should I do? I want to tell him this.

If you really like the guy then don't say a word. Just keep him on monitored status. Allow him to make his own mistakes. Don't even think of marriage or children for at least 2 years (if he is the one).

This way you give the situation a chance to evolve either way.