View Full Version : Long distance relationship
E12191G
Sep 11, 2011, 05:34 PM
So, Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year... We are in a long distance relationship, and we are making it work. Hes great! I really do love him! He wants the best for me and he's not like any guy I've ever met. We spend a lot of time on the phone together since it is long distance. I have noticed that we have less and less to talk about. We know a large amount of information about each other, and I find that we are having conversations that consist of two words "hi" and "hello".. . I'm not sure what's going on but I would like some opinions! I love him dearly and want more to talk about! I go blank when we are on the phone!
vanheart
Sep 11, 2011, 05:53 PM
At some point, you have to make a real plan to be together. Otherwise, forget it.
Discover what its really like to be in a relationship with this guy. Actually together.
As one who have been in a few LDs, it can be great when you are together, confusing when you aren't.
Always frustrating. None of mine ever worked. And I won't go there ever again.
Sometimes that works in the short term, because there is always "next time".
Its like a vacation. Fun for a bit, then not.
You can't have a relationship based on the phone, etc.. Missing someone is no way to live. Believe me.
"I have noticed that we have less and less to talk about." That says a lot right there.
Would it be any different if he were with you? Maybe the phone is all you both know.
How about talking about what's next? He may like things just the way they are.
That way there is no real commitment or consequences.
talaniman
Sep 11, 2011, 07:32 PM
Explain to me how you are making this long distance relationship work when you have nothing to talk about?
How often do you date, or even see each other, and where did you meet??
Do you have a social life apart from him?
Bc_Fc15
Sep 22, 2011, 03:37 PM
I've been in quite a few long distance relationships myself and I know its hard to matain them but if the love is strong enough then you can make it work. One of the best things to do is plan to meet for the day, go out together then when you next ring him you can talk about how you had a great time and you enjoyed his company that's one idiea. Also in any relationship there's a lot of trust but long distance is much harder but you can make it work just talk about what you did on the weekend and how much you miss him. Do you have a planned future if so talk about it, and if he loves you he doesn't care if you talk about aload of rubbish he's just happy to talk to you, you could repeat the same sentace again and again he would just be happy to here your okay I'm sure you'll figure something out. Good luck
pandead
Sep 22, 2011, 10:29 PM
There are many ways to make a long distance relationship last longer. You an talk on the internet and watch a movie "together", send care packages to each other with books, crafted objects etc. you can just talk about your day or make plans for the next time you see each other... But I will agree with the others, it IS hard and most of the time the distance will get in the way, conversations always coming to the same conclusion : "I miss you." And this is not how it's supposed to be.
Good luck.