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mariadebarros
Sep 10, 2011, 09:09 PM
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and he said its only physical and sexual and that he doesn't think its going to work out between the both of us but he also said that it's the best sex he ever had. We really don't communicate because he really doesn't talk that much and when we are together its watching movies or going to a bar.. so the other day we fought and I asked him if I should move on and he said yes. But I would like to stay with him I like him very much what should I do?

talaniman
Sep 10, 2011, 09:20 PM
Sorry, but he doesn't want you to stay with him, so take the hint, and leave him alone, so you can heal, and move on. Sorry again.

odinn7
Sep 10, 2011, 09:28 PM
Really? Do me a favor... read what you just wrote here... now read it again. WHY would you want to stay with him?

He's using you for sex and he pretty much told you that. He doesn't talk to you when you're together. He told you to move on.

You really want to stay with an a** like that? Get some self respect and leave him before he messes your mind up. Help yourself and do what's right.

JoeCanada76
Sep 10, 2011, 09:36 PM
The only thing to do is move on.

mariadebarros
Sep 10, 2011, 10:21 PM
OK thank you for advice and I do have to think...

But I pressured him that day we were fighting because the day before we were texting back and forth and I asked him if 100% he was sure if he wanted me to walk away from him and he said no.. but when I called him the next day instead of me talking to him I fought with him and that's when I pressured him to answer me rite there and then to give me answer to stay or walk away.. and he said if I wanted an answer rite there then that's when he said move on because he was pissed off

talaniman
Sep 10, 2011, 10:23 PM
Why would you be so persistent, to the point of conflict?? How old are you both??

odinn7
Sep 10, 2011, 10:24 PM
Whatever... that's not good enough. The "man" treats you like garbage and doesn't respect you. Do you really want to put up with that? Aren't you worth more than that? I bet you are but you just don't realize it or don't think you deserve it. Nobody deserves to be treated that way.

mariadebarros
Sep 10, 2011, 10:34 PM
talaniman, I stubborn and I am the type of person who needs to have answers rite there and then.. and I am wrong for that. I was beening persistent and he gave me what I want to hear

JoeCanada76
Sep 10, 2011, 10:49 PM
It really does not matter what else was said or done. In my own honest opinion it is finished. Persistent not sure, stubborn not sure, insecure yes, low self esteem yes.

Please leave this 2 month thing. Work on your issues. Find somebody that will actually care for you.

mariadebarros
Sep 10, 2011, 10:50 PM
Thank you that helped

mariadebarros
Sep 11, 2011, 10:07 AM
Talaniman I don't think he wants to end the relationship because last night he reached out to me by a simple text, and I reply with a simply reply, and after that we didn't text each other. So I was wondering what to think of that can someone please help me.

I would like to now if I should text him today, and ask if he is OK?


If my boyfriend and I broke up after two months of dating and I was so stubborn and kept pushing for him to give me an answer about me walking away or staying I think I pushed him to far at that moment and got the answer just walk away because I was being so pushy I ha vent spoken to him since the last text Friday afternoon but yesterday he reached out to me by texting me something so simply and I replied just a simply to him and I would like to know what should I do text him today to see how his is doing? And I didn't mention this he suffers from depression and does take med... what should I do because I really like him

talaniman
Sep 11, 2011, 10:58 AM
I would let the dust settle on this very short relationship, so he has time to get over his anger or frustration, and decide for himself whether his head is up for dealing with you or not. I see no good in you trying to force things at this point, without you both having a chance to miss each other a bit. Maybe give this a few days or weeks of doing other things without each other would bring more clarity to both of you, regarding the other.

I think you give him time to decide for himself if its just sex, as he said, or was there more. This also gives you time to calm down and get control of YOUR emotions and be thoughtful. Maybe his feelings for you don't match yours for him. That's a very real possibility, and you will likely push him away further, by insisting on getting his attention.

What's the hurry to force things?

Kahani Punjab
Sep 11, 2011, 11:11 AM
thank you that helped

Nice girl, that you are grateful to these fellows.

However, you did not open up your mind, as to what have you decided. Keep it in mind, firm and clear, that life goes on, but if you succeed in maintaining your self-esteem and loving yourself, the others will take interest in you. They will love you, respect you and give you what you want, what you deserve.Do not be a pitiable person. Remember, every person on earth is whole, perfect and complete. Everyone has his/her own specialities, and merits.

Be a girl, have guts and make the other people follow you, rather than being a miserable low-esteemed person. I guarantee you, if you leave him, he will chase you, but if you chase him, he will become bloated, boastful and bossy.

Respect yourself and those, who respect you, love you, really!

mariadebarros
Sep 11, 2011, 11:37 AM
Thank you all and I do respect what you all had to say it help a lot

JoeCanada76
Sep 11, 2011, 11:42 AM
Hope it did help and hope it makes a difference.

mariadebarros
Sep 11, 2011, 11:44 AM
It really did help... but my last question is should I delete him from Facebook?

JoeCanada76
Sep 11, 2011, 11:48 AM
Question is should this person be deleted from your Facebook. Personally I would say time to delete and cut the ties. No looking back.

mariadebarros
Sep 11, 2011, 11:53 AM
He texted me again a very simple text what should I do is he trying to reach out to me or not??

talaniman
Sep 11, 2011, 12:15 PM
it really did help.....but my last question is should i delete him from facebook?



Too soon, I think for any profound decisions, or rash actions, but keep it simple as he is doing for now. People with health problems require patience, and understanding, not push for what you want from them. Never forget that. Practice patience. For that you must have a lot of SELF CONTROL.

You can't get carried away by your own feelings, and expect anyone to put up with it.

All your questions were merged in the same post, to avoid confusion.

Kahani Punjab
Sep 11, 2011, 12:36 PM
O... I agree with TALANIMAN, that patience is necessary, but as human beings, we are prone to jump the gun, too soon. Even I did so, after reading Jesushelper, I agreed with him/her, even at that point, her/his point was CORRECT, but your next post turned the tables, on all of us! (Please do not mind, if I hurt someone. IT IS UNINTENTIONAL)

Dear, just wait, wait, wait... Slow and steady, you will understand him, he will learn how much he needs you, and you will learn, how much he deserves you, and your patience, and his love will be tested and also if his love is genuine or is he just flirting (around), for which TIME is something, which you need, to get to the bottom, of this problem, and an amicable solution.

vanheart
Sep 11, 2011, 09:59 PM
Yeah delete him. Go NC. No calls, texts, booty calls, whatever.

I know this is merged, but got to go back to this:

"he said its only physical and sexual and that he doesn't think its going to work out"

Did you get that one? I did.

At least he was being honest. Not Bf material.