I have an 8 year old that is ADHD,is it normal for him to be mad all the time? I need help! It seems like his anger comes out only when his around his father or myself, everything that his ask to do he turns it in to a big fight!

Have you made him part of the solution -- that he gives input as to which chores he'll be doing (give him choices) and keep track of successes on a chore chart (posted on the refrigerator)? Maybe work out with him rewards for various plateaus that he reaches.

First, with his father and your son, work up a list of chores that need to be done daily, weekly, occasionally, etc. Everyone gets chores to do.

He dosen't have house chores.From the moment I wake him up to get ready for school his upset he will argue about gettind dress, brushing his teeth, coming his hair if I don't help he won't do it every morning I have to do it myself and the hold time he is just trowing a fit. When he get home from school as soon as he opens the door his upset it takes about two hours every day to get done with his home work. When we make him choose he has a hard time choosing for example when we go to the groceries and is time to check out my kids are aloud to get a candy, my four year old know exacly what he wants and my 8 year old gets REALLY upset because he can't make up his mind and he get upset at his brother for knowing exactly what he wants this would keep him upset for the rest of the day!

Hi imaima,my grandaughter has ADHD,she does similar things,everything is basically too much trouble or she'll be asked to do something, making any excuse not to,so she'll say she's finished, having not done what she was asked in the first place, all down to concentration of which in her case is limited. She gets very angry,thinks the whole world is against her,however she is not angry all of the time.

I'm wondering if your son goes to councilling, as my grandaughter does,she finds this helps because in her words,"the counciller is not on anyones side and lets me talk and she listens".

Your son is very young so this may be done by some sort of play councilling,rather than talking.Many things can be learned from playing given the right type of play,you may be able to find the reasons he should be angry all of the time, especially at you or your husband.

If he's not doing any kind of councilling or release play he is not able to deal with his angry, and so it is a constant volcano.
My advice to you is to see your GP who can referr you to this method of therapy,which I'm sure given time will help you all to cope in day to day life.