Hello,

I am an Indian Muslim girl, studying abroad. I have an African (Ghanaian)friend who is somehow my best friend. My problem is that he has proposed me for marriage directly, and also said that he will change his religion from Christianity to Islam. I also like him, but we are just friends, but since he has asked me to marry, I am thinking about it.

Because I'm sure my family will never approve this marriage, an African man with me is beyond their imagination, but now I think I also love him in my heart, and if he changes the religion I have no objection, and I would love to marry him.

How can I convince the family, and should I trust him to this extent. I need some comments on the situation that can help me decide what to do ?

How are the living standards in Ghana? Is there a chance that the guy will go back to his religion some time after marriage?

This may be a very popular scam. If you have only met this person online then you can assume you are being scammed. Has h asked you for money yet?

no he studies with me we know each other as friends for one years and he has never asked for money or anythng else.. he seems to respect me n my religious values too

Unless he accepts and believes in your religion, he will never really change. He may say the words to join but what is in his heart is the issue.

Next marriage is either arranged or for love, and it is not arranged, and you are not sure you love him.
Also if you really loved him, and was to marry for love, his religion would not make any difference.

Have you talked with him only on the Internet, or have you met him in person?

I think you wait, and see if his words, and actions match, and if your feelings are more concrete, before you go asking your parents for such a blessing from them. Sorry, I just don't buy you going from just friends, to in love and want the rest of your life with this fellow, nor do I believe he would change his whole religion, and traditions for you.

Lousy idea, find out more about his deeper character before you believe him. Maybe he is truthful, and has good intentions, but way to soon to think he can meet such lofty expectations.

See what happens with this friendship in a year or TWO!!

What's the hurry??

have you talked with him only on the internet, or have you met him in person?

Wondergirl;


he studies with me we know each other as friends for one years

To the OP. I'm a bit confused by this;


I also like him, but we are just friends,


I'm sure my family will never approve this marriage

And now suddenly, same post;


but now I think I also love him in my heart, and if he changes the religion I have no objection, and I would love to marry him.

You think you love him? I thought you liked him as a friend.

Which is it?

Are you wanting to marry him, fight with your parents to marry him, because you love him, or are you only wanting to accept because he asked and you don't want to miss an opportunity to be married?

I do not think changing religious matters love does, and do not takw any decesion in hurry sit calm be relax and think the consiquences before taking any decesion it may be life changing to marry a completely different religion guy then yours advice is mine decesion is yours I advice you to not to marry him

But it is your life you do what ever you like to do.t
Thankx

I think he is love you real but many Indian parents have bad altitude of discriminate blackmen.but take him its your chance to bring changes in the Indian culture.By bitta from institute of social work Tanzania