Could it be that he wants me to feel the pain he felt ?

Regardless of what he wants, if he is abusive you need to leave him alone.
There is no excuse for abuse

Yes it could be, or maybe it is that it has created insecurities inside of him depending on what you did and now his controlling personallity is coming out. How did you hurt him?

Good Luck,
Javi

What do you mean by aggressive?? Bad behavior is never justified.