View Full Version : So... If you ask a guy "Did you miss me?" And he chooses to ignore it ?
water332
Aug 22, 2011, 03:14 PM
Do you think that means 'Yes, but I'm too prideful to admit it.' or 'No, I just don't want to hurt you?
talaniman
Aug 22, 2011, 05:07 PM
A sure sign you are with the wrong guy.
mmresd
Aug 22, 2011, 06:24 PM
If a guy chooses to ignore anything that you have said to him, does it really matter what he is thinking? Leave him and find someone who will at least show you a little bit of respect.
Good Luck,
Javi
Jake2008
Aug 23, 2011, 05:02 AM
That is one of those questions that is between a rock and a hard place. If he didn't particularly miss you and said so, your feelings would be hurt. If he said he missed you, but didn't mean it, it is meaningless.
Maybe he is just one of those people who is secure in his relationship with you, that he can manage without you for a few days, and is independent enough to not to need you 100% of the time. Maybe he doesn't think of you as 'gone', but rather you aren't there (for whatever reason), and brief absences in a relationship that is solid, is no big deal.
Maybe he sees the question as you needing confirmation that he loves you, in which case, his actions may speak louder than his words. Did he manage on his own OK? Was he texting and calling all the time wondering where his favourite socks were or how to make toast? I would be proud of a partner who wasn't 100% dependent on me.
If he wasn't using your absence as an excuse to have beer bashes at home, or partying the night away with his buddies downtown, I think you should be able to read between the lines.
While he may not have 'missed you' in so many ways, the bigger picture (I hope) is that he is solid enough to not be a needy, clingy, man on his own for a few days.
water332
Aug 24, 2011, 07:14 PM
So I had a crush on this guy, and he also flirted back, but then I feel like are friendship ended the day he screwed me over. I was relying on him, but he decided to screw me over and only think of himself.
I tried to forget it happened because I valued our friendship more (no ones perfects right) but I ended up resenting him for it later on. I lied & told him I had a boyfriend now... I just wanted to hurt his feelings (no it didn't make me feel any better) but then I realized I didn't want to lose him.
He was going away on a family vacation for 2 months. So I mustered up all the confidence I had, and called before he left, we talked casually, and then I said it... "i can't believe you're leaving, I'll miss you... I like you, I'm going to miss you." he never brought it up after that.
He hurt me really really bad the first time, it was a really serious situation and I couldn't count on him... He screwed me over.
I hurt him back, but I told him I liked him. Do you think he understood what I was trying to tell him?
Cat1864
Aug 24, 2011, 07:32 PM
Is this the same person: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/soo-if-you-ask-guy-did-you-miss-me-he-chooses-ignore-594024.html ?
I think you need to back up and explain what happened because right now I am not sure I understand what you trying to say.
All I can tell is that something happened and you blame him whether he deserves it or not. You turned around and hurt him. Then you call him and were you trying to apologize and/or give him an opening to talk to you again?
I think you need to leave him alone and actually find a boyfriend who you aren't playing games with and who you don't harbor resentment against.
water332
Aug 24, 2011, 07:44 PM
Maybe your right, and I should just give up.
It doesn't matter anymore, I'm taking your advice and moving on, realizing we just don't work.
I was just wondering if he understood that I was telling him that I liked him, or if I was unclear?
amicon
Aug 24, 2011, 10:03 PM
Moving on is the best option.
As for whether he understood what you said- I'm pretty sure he did- but does it matter?
Playing games is never attractive.
slapshot_oi
Aug 26, 2011, 03:36 PM
So I had a crush on this guy, and he also flirted back, but then I feel like are friendship ended the day he screwed me over. I was relying on him, but he decided to screw me over and only think of himself.
Well, relying on this crush to do or say whatever it was you expected was mistake number one, you set yourself up to get hurt.
Based on my statement above and given lack of information, I'm not buying that he "screwed you over", it sounds like you're just offended by his reaction.
Either way, move on and don't dwell on this, his feelings won't change.