Help, I've been with my partner for three years, and have a beautiful daughter, plus two children from a previous relationship. All was perfect up until a week before I was due to give birth, when I found messages on his phone to another woman.

Since then a year and half later I just feel that my whole world is empty now, he won't tell me how he feels, I feel as though he is not attracted to me anymore. When I make an effort to have sex he rejects me, yet when we do which is about twice a month, it isn't meaningful. We argue about my ex, and I quite openly tell him how I feel, especially rejection from him and lack of emotion, and ask him why he felt the need to flirt with women via text.

Yet, he just says he doesn't know why he did that, however he still loves me, and finds me attractive. I'm at the point of turmoil now, as I just don't know what to think, or feel anymore.

Just any advice would do, help!!


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I have to say I don't know how you can expect a healthy sex life when your relationship is in such a disarray due to lack of being able to honestly communicate with each other.

Its very easy to see that not resolving old issues has built up resentments in you both, and unless you actually learn how to get resolution by talking, not fighting, this will eventually drive an even greater wedge between you than you have now.

I strongly suggest that you have an unbiased third party to guide you to learning how to communicate, preferably a professional counselor, or even a minister.

I doubt you can overcome this by yourselves because you haven't so far, and the sooner you get this help, the better.

If you have to ask this question "Has the trust gone?" then I am going to safely say YES! You need to make a decision. You can either choose to forgive this guy for making the mistakes he has made and completely choose to trust him again (practice makes perfect), or to break up with him and stop wasting your time with someone who you will never be able to feel comfortable around.

Good Luck,
Javi