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starfish23
Aug 21, 2011, 08:23 PM
About 2 weeks ago, an ex-friend and her boyfriend desided to gang up on me and my boyfriend on Facebook. She called me a *****, accused me of being jealous that her boyfriend is better than mine (which is not true because Ive liked my boyfriend all through high school and Im happy that he's finally with me) She's bragged that she's prettier than me, skinnier than me and more. Her boyfriend called my boyfriend a "fag," he accused my boyfriend of being jealous of him, he said my boyfriend is desperate for being with me and more. And like that's not enough, they get their friends to join them as well.
My boyfriend and I blocked them on Facebook but I feel like that's not enough. I want to just forget all of the horrible things they said to us but its so hard. It hurt so bad that she said stuff that she knew I was self conscious about, like my weight and my looks and I cry every night about it. I want to forget everything but I think about it everyday and I can't stop. Im so angry and I was never a mean or angry person before she decided to start all her drama.
Ive tried just thiinking positively. Ive tried telling myself that she's wrong and she's not worth me getting upset over. Ive tried telling myself that I am a smart, beautiful, tallented, and amazing person like my boyfriend tells me everyday but nomatter what, I can't forget the things she said.
I know cyber bullying is a common problem right now and Im not the only person feeling this way. If somebody (especially somebody who knows what Im feeling) could please tell me ways I could just forget all the nasty things she said and be happy again. I would be forever thankfull

odinn7
Aug 21, 2011, 08:58 PM
Hello there... I'm sorry to hear that you went through this. I was placed in this type of situation twice, a few years ago. All I can really tell you is that you have to realize (and believe it) that what these people said doesn't matter. If you're happy with the person you're with, overall happy with yourself and your life, then these people that said and did this to you are insignificant and don't matter. Live for you, not them. What they said and did is affecting you and if you continue to let it, they have succeeded in what they wanted to do to you.

I'm sorry I have no magical solution for you to forget about it but you just have to push through it. Once you realize that they don't matter, you will see things differently. I was friends with someone who cared entirely too much what people said about her and she let it eat her up and dictate how she ran her life. I decided I wouldn't let that happen to me and it turned out to be fairly easy to do.

Good luck.