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danlyso
Aug 15, 2011, 04:58 PM
I'm new to these kinds of forums cause I always feel weird with being open about such deep and painful issues, but I decided to try and seek out some advice on this.

Me and my now ex-fiancée were together for 7 years, we had our on/off again issues and were going strong up until her father died, I tried to be there the best I can but she believed it wasn't good enough so we broke up.

Its been about a year and we've been hanging out, watched movies, hell even a month ago we took a trip to see our favorite band. She ended up breaking down telling me to not leave her and to stay in her life. And now, a month later she told me she is now dating someone.

Being very confused and hurt, I didn't know what to do. Is this rebound thing just a way of her saying she wants to see what's out there or is she really moving on and I'm stuck with my hang ups.

Anyway I hope someone has some good advice cause I could definitely use some at the moment as I'm pretty devastated. Thanks.

talaniman
Aug 15, 2011, 05:48 PM
No guy, this is not a rebound thing, but her keeping you as an emotional tampon until she had moved on to better things.

Best to disappear, and regroup yourself. Sorry to have to tell you that. Don't look back.

vanheart
Aug 15, 2011, 10:53 PM
Yeah.

This isn't about anything other than she's out.

Not about Her dad or bands. She's got someone.

7 years is a long time. But hell is forever.

If that's what you decide.

NC, next?

I wish
Aug 16, 2011, 02:24 PM
Regardless of how she broke down, the second she's ready to date someone else, she knows that she risks losing you. If she's prepared to lose you, then it sounds like she's moving on with her life.

Her wanting you to stick around is more like having you as the back up plan. If things don't pan out with the others, then she always has you to fall back on.