I broke up with my ex/son's father in 12/10. He was cheating and he's currently in a relationship with the woman he cheated with. We have a 3 yo son, and we were together for 7.5yrs. Our relationship was fine. Of course we had the normal ups and downs like all couples, but our biggest problem was his infidelity.

Now I know that alone should be enough to send me running for the hills, which is what I did when I got that gut feeling that something wasn't right. By no means do I want to be with him again. But why do I still love him? I love him just as much now as I did when we were together. I have forgiven him for the cheating, and we remain cordial for the sake of our son.

I thought that after a while my feelings would fade, but they haven't. I still get butterflies when I see him, 8 months after our breakup. Yes, I know he betrayed my trust and ruined what we had by cheating... yes I know that he's currently dating the girl who came between us, and he's happy with her. So w/that being said, I don't know why I can't stop loving him!!

I just wanted to know if anyone out there has been where I am, and if so, will I ever stop loving my ex? I feel like I can't pursue anything real w/a new guy because I'm still in love with my ex. He doesn't know this at all, and sometimes I wonder if he still loves me (not that it matters). Is it normal to still feel this way, being that we split up a while ago?

I would say it's normal.. I spent about a year being in love with my ex after we broke up. It doesn't help that you have to see him either. I found the best way to move on is to not see him at all but since you can't do that I suggest you keep your distance as much as possible, with time you will start feeling differently. Time will change your perspective and you will move on..

Of course your feelings are normal, and as time goes on you will cope with them better. Especially after you have other things to be involved in.

Been in this situation. My ex cheated on me with the girl he is with now and we also have a child together. I miss him as much now as I did when he first left. It is perfectly normal. Its been over 2 years for me. All I can say is not to feel bad about how you feel. If its bothering you that much, mention you still care for him to him for some closure and then try and let go. He may or may not express how he feels, but at least he knows how you do. Its not necessarily distance, but distraction that helps you realize that other things and people can make you as happy as your ex did.