Hello! I can't understand on my own, what's going on, so... I'll just share my story.

Two years ago I met a girl, both of us were in a relationship in that moment, but obviously there was some chemistry going on. Nothing happened. We met in some parties after that, checked out each other, but nothing more. Last summer I broke up with my girlfriend. I put my life together again and lived my life.

Then in December my friend came to me with THAT girl [her relationship had ended]. We started dating and everything got out of control. In January, she told me that she couldn't do that anymore. For three days I didn't contact her, and there she was... standing in my doorway, crying. Next time was in April, but she came back to me anyway. No wonders, why. One day I called her and asked if we could meet. We met, we were walking, talking, then I knelt, with roses in my hands, tears in my eyes and I told her I really love her.

After this everything was going just perfect until I went on vacation. Now it's almost month as we broke up. She is together with someone else. I'm trying to get my life together, but she is bothering me. Time after time she is still controlling me. One day she got mad because of song I posted [Eamon - **** It], then she got jealous about some girls who posted comments in my profile. That wasn't enough. Next time she appeared, she sent me a message "sorry for hurting you". My life is a mess without her, thus somebody from above put her unfortunately in my way.

I didn't even want to talk to her, she gave me a hug. Yesterday we were chatting. It started with a text - I don't want to lose you as a friend. Still, funny. She misses talking to me, laughing about my jokes. She was listening our song, Bon Jovi - You Had Me From Hello. Why would somebody who is in a new relationship do something like this to himself? I guess thanks to her I'm really ****ed up. What is she up to? Friends? Or she wants to keep me in proximity?

This is my story... I can't understand the situation, because of emotions... Maybe someone else can help to do that?



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It's not about finding out why she is the way she is. If you knew, would it really matter? What matters right now is YOU and what you are going to do about the state you are in.

Just go no contact already!

I'm not sure if that matters. I'm not sure of anything at all. The right thing is not to contact with her. But... She is the one, who is writing me. The connection between us is too strong.

She is your ex so stop letting her in your life. Delete her from your Facebook and you some cell phone company allow you to block numbers so they can't call nor text you.

She is toying with you and your not over this girl and you won't be able to get over this girl if you don't let her go. So it is time to move on and leave her in the past.

Nobody can control you unless you let them.

No contact-forget FB and change your number if you can't block hers.

Stop being such a wuss and ignore her and disappear from her life. Blaming her for your inability to get your stuff together is really a punk move.