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Love0422
Aug 8, 2011, 11:04 AM
My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago. It was a mutual breakup. My boyfriend was all the time getting mad at me and then the final straw when going to fly and hang out with one of my best friends who lives in Texas. He would accuse me of basically going to cheat on him. He said he didn't want me seeing a friend that he didn't know. He was basically making up things in his own mind that he thought my friend from Texas would be crazy wild and be a bad influence on me. But, my friend isn't crazy wild. And I tried explaining that to him. He just didn't believe me.

Then a comment I received on my Facebook sparked another problem because the comment was from my ex boyfriend. My boyfriend asked who that guy was who commented and I told him it was an ex who is now a friend (which is true because I dated him when I was 21 and I'm now 28) so my boyfriend got so mad and was demanding me to delete him from my friends. I was like this is ridiculous so I said I'm just going to delete Facebook because I don't need this drama in my life... after deleting Facebook my boyfriend said I was being shady for deleting my Facebook... I had said in the past that I would delete it if there was a problem... so that's what I did... so my boyfriend was ignoring me one day a few days after I got back from Texas. So I called him, he didn't pick up. I text him asking him what he wants, he was like I'm not acting like myself and I just feel like we should end things, I'm sorry. I said I agree. I said a lot more than just I agree as did he say a lot more but all
In all we ended it mutually.

1 week later he texts me showing me a new pair of shoes he got and from then on we texted each other for a week and then ended up going to an amusement park together 2 weeks after the break up. Now, I'm sad after being with him. I feel like we broke up all over again. He's not texting me anymore since the amusement park and I feel so lonely... I feel the break up was the right thing but now after seeing and being with him I want him back... ugh I should have never went to the amusement park! 2 steps forward and now 2 steps back... I was doing so well getting on with my life until he texted me... :(

DOROTHYROSE
Aug 9, 2011, 12:21 PM
This sounds like an immature relationship.outside influences such as Facebook took over the relationship. If you want to make it work, focus in the two of you and not any other parties involved and ask wjat you want for each other and if your goals match. Dorothy rose

spitvenom
Aug 9, 2011, 12:56 PM
So what year of High School is your boyfriend in? I refuse to believe a MAN would act like an insecure BOY. You are better off without him. Go No Contact from here and Move on with your life.

BK201
Aug 9, 2011, 01:45 PM
Don't you think that selfishness is written all over him? So, he would break up, then text you, then spend a day with you, then disappear. No you are not his doormat.
You have got been through this before, and you will again. Don't loose you focus, you can do it. Read the threads about NC, it will definitely help you.

talaniman
Aug 9, 2011, 06:26 PM
I would be mad myself honestly, if you were going to go visit an ex. And I think he has a point, even if he over reacted. Now he is getting emotional revenge on you.

You both could have handled yourselves much better. I mean how would you have felt if he flew to another state to see an ex, who is a friend now??