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montana001
Aug 2, 2011, 09:38 PM
Hey, Well I really like this guy and we are super close. We text and talk all the time, and so the other day he and I along with a couple of my other friends went out. But yesterday he said he wanted to see me again, But my parents are really really protective. I really want see him though. He is always telling me how much he misses me, and how much I mean to him. When we go to bed he always tells me he loves me and so of course I say it back. What should I do? Should I tell him I like him ? Im worried it will be akward. And what should I do about my parents? ( Im 12 , and most of my friends have gone on dates before )

Fr_Chuck
Aug 3, 2011, 09:29 AM
Twelve is a child and you should not be "dating" and even if you do group activities where there are boy/girl couples, it has to be with your parents blessings.

You and the boy have to respect your parents wishes

agh1990
Aug 28, 2011, 02:58 PM
If by saying when you "go to bed" with him you mean sleeping with him, you need to remember that at your age what you're doing is against the law, and for a good reason. Laws aren't put in place to stop people having a good time, they're there to protect young people such as yourself who perhaps aren't old enough to make an informed decision without buckling under peer pressure. You already said that you say you love him because he says he loves you, and then in the same breath you're asking whether you should tell him that you like him, so you're already showing that you're being pressured into saying things you perhaps don't mean.
I think you need to take a step back, and think properly about what you're doing. You also need to start seeing your parents being protective as a good thing rather than a bad thing, at least they care about where their daughter is and what she's doing, as far too often you see parents who couldn't care less about who their kids hang out with or do, which is part of the problem behind teenager pregnancy and youth crime.
If you are having a sexual relationship, I obviously can't stop you, but please consider the following few things:
1) Don't ever have sex with someone because you think it will make them like you. You can never force someone into liking you, and if they already like you, you shouldn't need to have sex with them to carry it on, they should respect you if you want to wait.
2) You don't want to get yourself a repuatation so young, else guys will start to see you as someone they can just have sex with, and that's an awful life to lead.
3) Please make sure you're being safe in terms of pregnancy and diseases. For more information, visit a website like connexions or childline, which will give you all the information and advice you need on matters like this.

montana001
Aug 28, 2011, 03:42 PM
I would never do something like that I think its very stupid. I never been a bad kid I do respect my parents. He is not bad either, he is someone different I don't know what it is but he always knows what to do and say

Homegirl 50
Aug 28, 2011, 04:50 PM
How old is this guy?
You said "when we go to bed". Are you having sex with him? What exactly does that mean?
Your parents are being parents. They are right in not wanting their 12 year old daughter to date. That is way too young.

montana001
Aug 29, 2011, 02:59 PM
No I mean him at his house me at mine and by texting

Homegirl 50
Aug 29, 2011, 03:54 PM
How old is this young man?
The fact of it is, if your parents don't want you dating, that is it and this guy should respect that. If he doesn't, he does not really respect you.
This is a guy with budding hormones.
Of course he wants to see you again, but you are 12 years old. Have you talked to your parents about this? Do they know you are group dating?